Post # 1
Hi ladies- I am helping a friend plan her wedding she the venue she is using requires an exact head count for seating. Which is prettynormal- but they are on a strict budget and she would like to put on her invitation something along the lines of if you don’t rsvp you will not have a seat available.
I am trying my hardest to think of the best way to say that and not sounds rude or dumb.
So far the invitation will say RSVP by the date and the number to call.
The RSVP card will have ___ guest are invited
And ___ guest will be attending – therefore they are aware if they have 1 guest they can bring or if it’s just the parents invited, etc.
Please help us and give us any advice or words you know about to nicely say if you do not RSVP you will not have a place to sit.
Post # 3
We put, “If no reply is received by (date), we will assume you are unable to attend.”
Post # 4
There isn’t a nice way to say that.
“The favour of a reply is requested before (date).”
And when they don’t reply by that date, it’s her job to follow up with each guest individually to find out if they are coming or not.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Unless you’re inviting a bunch of teenagers without parents, I’m pretty sure the RSVP card itself is the reminder that there will be no where for you if you do not RSVP. Also, make sure you put ____ guest(s), or it’ll look really silly when you write “5 guest are invited.”
Post # 6
2 seats have been reserved in your honor
Number of people attending _______
Sorry, cannot attend _______
I’m not sure how to nicely word “if you don’t respond you don’t get a seat” lol
I think most people understand that they need to respond. Your friend will also need to follow up on non-responders. Sometimes things get lost in the mail. Assume nothing.
Post # 7
Thank you everyone. I agree from the beginninit there’s not a nice way to say it and most adults understand its important to RSVif and it’s very simplyso you include a respond care for them to send back.
Thank for the help .
Post # 8
Just a suggestion–try wording like “Please post/mail on or before XX date” instead of “favor of reply requested by…” The reason is because there are a lot of people out there (me included, I confess) who see the reply-by date and the date gets translated in their heads as the date to put the card in the mail…which means that the couple won’t receive it until a few days AFTER. So it might help to ask them to postmark by a certain date.
But otherwise, I’m kinda on board with the sentiment that there’s no graceful way to say “if you don’t RSVP, you can’t come.” Not only does it sound bad, but it also doesn’t allow for things getting lost in the mail and oversights like that. It’s really, really annoying, but I’d advise your friend to set an RSVP deadline a week or so in advance of whenever she needs the headcount and to call all the disappearing acts (you want a week because like I said, people will need time to respond to VM and/or people go on vacation yadda, yadda, yadda). Again, totally a pain, but at the end of the day, chances are you want your guests to be there enough to give them a chance.