(Closed) RSVP wording

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee

We put, “If no reply is received by (date), we will assume you are unable to attend.”

Post # 4
12973 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There isn’t a nice way to say that.

“The favour of a reply is requested before (date).”

And when they don’t reply by that date, it’s her job to follow up with each guest individually to find out if they are coming or not.

Post # 5
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Unless you’re inviting a bunch of teenagers without parents, I’m pretty sure the RSVP card itself is the reminder that there will be no where for you if you do not RSVP. Also, make sure you put ____ guest(s), or it’ll look really silly when you write “5 guest are invited.”

Post # 6
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012


2 seats have been reserved in your honor

Number of people attending      _______

Sorry, cannot attend                 _______


I’m not sure how to nicely word “if you don’t respond you don’t get a seat” lol

I think most people understand that they need to respond.  Your friend will also need to follow up on non-responders.  Sometimes things get lost in the mail.  Assume nothing.

Post # 8
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just a suggestion–try wording like “Please post/mail on or before XX date” instead of “favor of reply requested by…” The reason is because there are a lot of people out there (me included, I confess) who see the reply-by date and the date gets translated in their heads as the date to put the card in the mail…which means that the couple won’t receive it until a few days AFTER. So it might help to ask them to postmark by a certain date.

But otherwise, I’m kinda on board with the sentiment that there’s no graceful way to say “if you don’t RSVP, you can’t come.” Not only does it sound bad, but it also doesn’t allow for things getting lost in the mail and oversights like that. It’s really, really annoying, but I’d advise your friend to set an RSVP deadline a week or so in advance of whenever she needs the headcount and to call all the disappearing acts (you want a week because like I said, people will need time to respond to VM and/or people go on vacation yadda, yadda, yadda). Again, totally a pain, but at the end of the day, chances are you want your guests to be there enough to give them a chance.

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