(Closed) RSVP wording help – family member getting married the same day

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Well, do you really need an RSVP for the ceremony?  I would make the RSVP for the reception only (since mostly you need it to know how much food to have, etc.) and then spread the word throughout your dad’s side by word of mouth that if people have to RSVP “no” to the reception, they’re still welcome at your ceremony.  You could print something like “Ceremony begins at 2 pm, we have reserved ___ seats in your honor for dinner and dancing at 5 pm (or whenever). ___ of ____ attending reception”

Post # 4
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Makes sense to me. I think it looks good

Post # 6
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I actually think the way that you have posted is great.  It’s really clear what each person is RSVPing to, and its also clear that they are invited to both, so no opportunity for hard feelings on their side.  Now they also can see that they have somewhat of an 
“out” to go to your cousin’s wedding without having to sneak out the back door, or get “lost” on the way to the reception.  

I think its very tactful & very useful for your planning!

Post # 7
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Your way of doing it sounds great to me, because it implies that you’re okay if they choose to come to your ceremony but not your reception, so they know you won’t have hard feelings about it.  I think doing it like this means more people will come to your ceremony, who might otherwise skip the whole thing for fear of offending you. 

Post # 8
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I like the way you wrote it out. It is a polite way of asking and it clears everything up for everyone. I would just stick with that idea because it seems like the best solution 🙂

Post # 9
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I think the way you have it looks great and is very clear (If I were not in your dads family and didn’t know about the other wedding, I might think it was a little odd, but check off yes for both and most likely forget about it!)

Post # 11
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think that what you have come up with is perfect. It leaves no room for uncertainty and gives them a nice option.

Post # 12
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I really like how you worded it. Should be good. 🙂

Post # 13
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with others.  The way you have it worded should allow you to get solid head counts for both parts of your events.  And good for you for being so cool with crazy family politics!

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