Post # 1
Hi bees! Yes, I’m posting under an assumed identity. I’m starting to design my invites (starting early!), but this is something I definitely need help with.
My cousin on my dad’s side is getting married on the same day as I am (long story), and I have come to terms with it. There are no hard feelings (on my side at least), but here’s the thing. My dad’s family unfortunately has to make a choice which wedding they want to attend, but because we’re relatively near each other location wise (1 1/2 hr drive), they can attend the ceremony at 2pm, and make it to hers if they want which is at sunset, which means they won’t come to my reception at 6pm.
How do I word this on the RSVP? I was thinking of having a separate section for Ceremony and Reception, since they have an option of attending either of them. There is plenty of seating at the Ceremony, but I wanted to separate them so that I could have a head count for the dinner. For example, I could have it say:
We have reserved __ seats in your honor
__ of ___ attending / regret
___ of ___ attending / regret
What does the hive think? Sorry for the length of the post….
Post # 3
Well, do you really need an RSVP for the ceremony? I would make the RSVP for the reception only (since mostly you need it to know how much food to have, etc.) and then spread the word throughout your dad’s side by word of mouth that if people have to RSVP “no” to the reception, they’re still welcome at your ceremony. You could print something like “Ceremony begins at 2 pm, we have reserved ___ seats in your honor for dinner and dancing at 5 pm (or whenever). ___ of ____ attending reception”
Post # 4
Makes sense to me. I think it looks good
Post # 5
@greenleafmountain – I kinda wanted to have that there so there wouldn’t be confusion to which one they would be attending. I have a feeling that if some of my dad’s side wanted to go to both weddings (my ceremony and her reception) and they RSVP’ed yes to mine, then it wouldn’t be clear if they would be coming to my ceremony and reception. I hope this makes sense…
I have a pretty big family, so calling each RSVP would be a pain (but wouldn’t be impossible). Not to mention calling them and asking, “Are you coming to the ceremony AND reception? Or just the ceremony?”
If anybody has any ideas on how to tackle this – I’ll take em’!
Post # 6
I actually think the way that you have posted is great. It’s really clear what each person is RSVPing to, and its also clear that they are invited to both, so no opportunity for hard feelings on their side. Now they also can see that they have somewhat of an
“out” to go to your cousin’s wedding without having to sneak out the back door, or get “lost” on the way to the reception.
I think its very tactful & very useful for your planning!
Post # 7
Your way of doing it sounds great to me, because it implies that you’re okay if they choose to come to your ceremony but not your reception, so they know you won’t have hard feelings about it. I think doing it like this means more people will come to your ceremony, who might otherwise skip the whole thing for fear of offending you.
Post # 8
I like the way you wrote it out. It is a polite way of asking and it clears everything up for everyone. I would just stick with that idea because it seems like the best solution 🙂
Post # 9
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I think the way you have it looks great and is very clear (If I were not in your dads family and didn’t know about the other wedding, I might think it was a little odd, but check off yes for both and most likely forget about it!)
Post # 11
I think that what you have come up with is perfect. It leaves no room for uncertainty and gives them a nice option.
Post # 12
I really like how you worded it. Should be good. 🙂
Post # 13
I agree with others. The way you have it worded should allow you to get solid head counts for both parts of your events. And good for you for being so cool with crazy family politics!