RSVP Yes… No Show?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We had 65 guests RSVP yes and I think 2 no-shows (one couple). Not sure what happened there.

Post # 17
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909 posts
Busy bee

We invited 185 and had about 10 no shows. But it worked out since we had a couple of people show up who weren’t invited and some cousins brought their kids. Out of all of the no shows only 2 of them actually contacted me to explain themselves. My aunt is a nurse and was called to work last minute that night. She was super bummed she wasn’t there. Another was my Mother-In-Law best friend who’s flight was delayed. I was still pissed that she was flying up the day of but at least she explained herself and sent a gift. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I don’t think we had any no-shows, actually, but I’m not sure. We invited about 170, expecting a lot of nos from my husband’s side, and had 100 or so RSVP yes. We had to chase down some RSVPs from the people who we didn’t expect to show, just in case. The only people who really stressed me out were this one couple, friends of my parents, who wouldn’t/couldn’t tell us whether or not they were coming or not until a few days before the wedding. The wife was having some health issues, but they showed up, partied on the dance floor, and it was fine. I just wish they had made a decision before the RSVP deadline, but my caterer had planned a bit of a buffer, and we were planning to pay for the other vendors to eat (at a discounted rate) anyway so the food wouldn’t have gone to waste.

Post # 19
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Busy bee

We had 141 RSVP “yes,” and of those, about 10 didn’t show. I was not happy.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

Maybe about 5 people, luckily! It was $110 per head so we just had to eat the cost. Most were plus ones who were sick. One person forgot the date (No longer friends). Another person didn’t give a reason and I never asked.

Post # 21
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756 posts
Busy bee

We had a wife and husband no call no show to our formal Engagement Party over $150/pp.  

Her cousin is also a good friend of mine and told me at the party that she texted her saying she’s on her way, but she never came. A few weeks later she tells me she was in the hospital (Saturday, the day of our party), but she was shopping for BMWs on her Snapchat on Sunday. Hmm…. Needless to say, I of course acted cordial and wished her well, but she will not be invited to the wedding. 

Our wedding will be around $300/pp and I say I’ll send an invoice to all no call no shows. My family thinks Im kidding, but I’m seriously considering it. I find it beyond rude. Frankly, I don’t care if I paid $1 for someone, if you’re unable to come, say so. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

mgrd7531 :  We had between 15-20 that did this. None of them let us know they weren’t coming which was a little irritatating, but luckly we were in a simliar situation to your friend – we got to keep the leftovers from our caterer, and were already paying for a set amount more than what we even had rsvp, due to a minimum for the distace they traveled. We had to pay for 225, minimum, had 219 rsvp, and ended up with a little over 200. 

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We had about 100 guests and only 1 was a sort of no show. I say sort of because he came down with food poisoning during the night before the wedding. His girlfriend (my childhood friend – he was essentially her plus one) sent me a text in the morning just letting me know that she would be attending alone and apologising for the late notice. It was too late to really do anything about it (we still had to pay for him), but I definitely appreciated the heads up. My dad (who had been looking after my phone for me and saw the message) let our coordinator know when we arrived at the venue, and she managed to quickly rearrange the table so that there wasn’t an obvious gap.

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

We had about 80 guests, 1 person originally rsvp’d yes but told us about 2/3 weeks out from the wedding they couldnt make it anymore. Everyone who said they would be there on the day was there.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Out of 120 invited I would say maybe 4-5 no shows? One had *desperately* asked several times for an invitation when I hadn’t planned on inviting her so I was pretty mad about that one.

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper

We had zero no shows.

The only two weddings that I know of that had a lot of no shows (as in more than one or two) were where either the bride or groom or both were arseholes and either did something to alienate/offend the guests who were no shows or the guests found out that they were not going to be hosted properly (I am talking about a reception over a meal time with little to no food) so they bailed. 

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Highland Park Community House

220 invited and 10 people that RSVP yes were a no show. All 10 were out of town guest. 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We had 0 no shows for our 65 person wedding. One couple’s car actually died on the way to the wedding and missed the ceremony, but managed to get a ride to the reception. 30 guests not showing is an INSANE amout, I would say that is certainly not normal and crazy rude!

Post # 29
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1533 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Out of our 170ish (not sure of the exact number now that I think about it) we had 0 no shows. Anyone who couldn’t make it and RSVP’d yes let us know way ahead of time that they couldn’t make it after all.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We only had two of our guests that said said they were coming and didn’t show up. A family emergency came up in their family. We completely understood 

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