(Closed) RSVP ?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Well I did mine a bit sooner then that, mostly because I have an A list and  B list, my wedding is the 23rd if August and A listres are to respond by July 14th, with the next batch (taking into consideration the no’s) are going out the 19th or something like that with a rsponse date for them of about 3 weeks before.

 Confusing, sorry. 

My venue (and most in fact) require to have final numbers 2 weeks before hand. I need that week to add things up and chase donw non returned RSVP’s 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

We’re doing a month in advance.  Our caterer wants final numbers 2 weeks out, and I want time to get in touch with anyone who doesn’t send the RSVP in time. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Ditto what EK said

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Again ditto what EK said

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

It really depends on your caterer.  Because our wedding is a week after July 4th, our chef needs the final headcount before the holiday.  So we asked for our RSVPs 3 weeks before, in order to give us an extra week to call anyone who hadn’t responded.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I would have loved to have an earlier RSVP (because I’m going to be anxious), but mine is about 3 weeks ahead of time. My caterer needs a final count just 3 days ahead of time (craziness!). The worst I have ever seen an RSVP deadline was for a christening (seriously!), and it was 6 weeks prior!! And I got a call a week before that asking if we were coming! Come on now, that was a BIT excessive!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Actually, ours is about 6 weeks before the wedding because we have a b-list and really need to know ASAP who is coming from the a-list (and we didn’t want to give b-listers the idea that they were on the b-list). It’s also during the summer, when people aren’t likely to RSVP by the specified date (nothing seems to happen on time during the summer!), so we wanted to give more room than less. If we didn’t have a b-list, I would’ve asked for them 4 weeks before the wedding.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Hmm… I was thinking of sending mine out 6 weeks or more in advance, because it’s semi-destination for all of my family and friends, and we’re self-catering. We’re also not doing Save-The-Date Cards, so we’re relying on word of mouth to let people know when the date is… if most are flying or having to make other travel plans, I’d rather let them know early. Too weird?

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We did what EK did. Mr. JCM insisted on this.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

December: I think you’re talking about sending the invitations, we were discussing the RSVP deadline. I think 6 weeks would be the latest I would send invites out, and for a destination (or semi-destination) and without STD’s, I would do as early as possible. Not weird, I think 2-3 months is standard for sending invites like that out.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

oh, duh. sorry for the OT. you can tell I’ve gotten 6 hours of sleep or less the past three nights. Thanks for the help!

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