Post # 1
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Newbee
Ok so here we go with the RSVP thing again…I don’t know what to do…I already know that at least half of the guests invited my family and his..won’t RSVP…So, i’m like why waste the money on printing cards, buying envelopes and postage if they won’t use it…I know they’ll just say "HEY WE’RE COMING"…ughh so I was thinking maybe I should just have them call to RSVP..is that tacky or too informal?? I’m hardly ever home or use my home phone so they could call on that line, so I won’t have a massive amount of people calling my cell all day long….and it will keep some family..we’ll you know from knowing my cell…
So hive what do you think…is asking them to RSVP by calling my house tacky?? 
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
do you have a wedding website where they can RSVP, you could always send out a reminder email and have them RSVP online….and maybe call the ones who don’t have internet access?? You’d not be wasting the paper and such but still have an organized system of things, just a thought.
Post # 4
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Honey bee
I’ve worried about the same thing… I know a handful of people won’t RSVP & will just announce it. We’re still sending out reply cards though w/ postage because a bunch of our guests would be taken aback otherwise.
However, how is having your guests call any different than an online RSVP? Tons of people do this to save money & paper, but if your guests aren’t computer saavy- then I think this is a good idea to get them to call! It’s even more personal than an online rsvp. 🙂
I vote that you get them all to RSVP via telephone.
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
I had to call in for a rsvp once and I didn’t like it because I didn’t know the person very well and I think I ended up talking to her dad. It was very awkward. I would at least give the option of a website or an email to rsvp too. Also, keep in mind any guests who might have to call long distance to reach you.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
I would suggest trying to see if you could set up an internet RSVP, and then you could have both as options. At the bottom of the invites, add a note saying "please RSVP either by phone [#] or on our wedding website [URL, password, etc.]". Or you could also include your e-mail address. You may also want to remind people what information to include, since it won’t be laid out on a card: you want their names, how many people are coming, maybe their meal choices, and probably their phone number/e-mail so you can contact them if need be.
Post # 7
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Newbee
Thank you so much for your responses..I will work on a wedding website tomorrow at work..just don’t tell my boss…:) I will give both options..I have some that are computer savvy and some that aren’t at alllll..(one of my aunts still uses a word processor-go figure)…and no worries aja0829…I am an encore bride with two little kids, so no one else is here to answer my phone..I can see how that would be really weird….THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!! I will let you know how it works out for me..
Anymore ideas or thoughts please post…it may help a future bee!!
Post # 8
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Worker bee
About 30 people on my mom’s side of the family are non-rsvpers… I had her call them all and get the information over the phone….
Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
My advice is to go ahead and send the formal RSVP to everyone, making sure that the deadline gives you a cushion of time before you have to report to your vendor. Then once the deadline passes, you should start calling people that haven’t RSVPed. Make your Fiance call his relatives!
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
I’m not sure whether Emily Post would necessarily agree, but I don’t think there’s a thing wrong with it at all. You’re probably going to have to call a good-ish number to get their RSVPs anyways, tbh.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
I honestly dont see the big deal with call RSVP’s. It’s not exactly formal but like you said, why spend all the money on RSVP cards if you know they won’t get used? My wedding isn’t 100% formal and I’m having all of the RSVPs come in through email or phone just to make it cheaper (I know a few who won’t jump to RSVP) and generally easier.
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