Post # 1
OK, so we are having a small wedding in a local restaurant. Our guest list is small we recently gave the restaurant and different vendors the FINAL count. Now about 2 WEEKS after our RSVP date we received Yes responsed for a total of 8 people. Truth be told we simply cannot afford these now extra guest. The restaurant is not budging and we have already adjusted other areas of our budget so that the 42 people who did RSVP can have the best experience. Any thoughts? What should I tell these 8 people who we won’t have room for???
Post # 3
i think the only way to tell them is to be honest. but i am not sure i understand how you invited people but no longer have space for them. what if everyone had said Yes on time?
Post # 4
I would call them and apologize for the confusion. I’m assuming you had a date on the RSVP card. Just tell them that the reason you had the date was because you had to give a final count and you can’t change that now. If you make it sound like you’re bummed that they won’t be able to come they’ll understand.
Post # 5
I’d be honest and say that you already had to give your venue the final count and they won’t budge. RSVP dates are in place for a reason. It’s not your fault these people chose to reply weeks after the deadline.
Post # 6
It’ll be an awkward conversation, but you have to talk to them.
Post # 7
Hey! That was my 1000th post.
Post # 8
@MissHobbit: Congratulations on your 1000th post! haha.
@dynamic_duo: We budgeted for 50 guest. But once we went past the 1 week RSVP date, I assumed these guest weren’t coming gave the restaurant the final number of 42 and we used the “extra” funds in other areas of our already tight budget.
Thanks, I know I will have to call them I am just not sure what to say or how to best say it anyway that won’t come across as “Sorry, too late!”
Post # 9
@ms_nickie: Yes, I did have a date on the RSVP, and tried to let it be known through personal conversations through the grapevine how important it was for them to have the RSVP in on time. Yes, I’ll just have to “apologize” and let them know. Thanks gals, I just didn’t want to come across as obnoxious.
Post # 10
Ugh, I was in a similar situation. I had guest who didn’t RSVP and were still talking about attending the wedding. Luckily, I found this out through relatives a week before the wedding and had to call them and ask them not to come (awkward). Because we received less than 75% of our confirmed attending we actually ended choosing a small and cheaper venue. It is always tough when people don’t follow etiquette. But just stand your ground, if you and your fiance have already used the money elsewhere just behonest. Tell them that the venue needed a confirmed number by X date and as you hadn’t recieved their RSVP in time, you’re sorry but you won’t have room/food for them at the reception…
Good luck, hope it works out.
Post # 11
That is going to be an awkward conversation for sure.
But you will just have to be honest with them and say you gave your final numbers and now the restaurant won’t change it.
Post # 12
Make the restaurant look like the bad guy, which is true, they refused to accommodate extra guests once the final number was received. Not much else you can do!
Post # 13
How about you give me their numbers and I will call them and be like ‘SUCK IT ASSFACES YOU SHOULDA RSVPD BY THE REQUESTED DATE! ENJOY YOUR TV DINNER THAT NIGHT!’
Post # 15
Is the wedding itself in the restaurant? Perhaps you could soften the blow by letting them know you would be happy to include them at the ceremony but so sorry, you needed to give in final counts to the vendor, who won’t budge. (The fact that you spent the extra monies elsewhere now is beside the point – I wouldn’t mention it.)
Post # 16
You didn’t contact the guests who didn’t RSVP? Uh-oh. I would call the venue first and see if there’s any way they can adjust the numbers, most prepare a bit extra in case.