(Closed) RSVPed yes, but don't know that I want to go…UGH!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I prefer to avoid drama so I would go, unless I’d never have to deal with or see her again.. Then I wouldn’t bother. Good luck with this one!

Post # 5
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you decide not to go, do so SOON because if you wait too long and she’s already paid the caterer per head and you don’t show up, that is just the worst, haha (but seriously)

Post # 6
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would not go. If she has behaved this badly already, it’s only going to get worse.

You said it yourself. The two of you aren’t close anymore and you don’t like her behavior. Don’t put yourself out for someone you don’t seem to like very much. If she is going to completely end your friendship for this, how much of a friend was she to begin with?

Post # 7
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@LurkerBee:  Just tell her you have hepatitis…and that you aren’t coming and she needs someone else to make her dress.

Post # 9
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Another vote for hepatitis! LOL

Tuberculosis could work in a pinch, too.

Post # 10
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

14hrs is a long way, especially if she’s having another reception close to you. I’d prob cancel too, but let her know asap! Vacation time + $ + long drive….if she doesn’t understand then she’s not a good friend. The dress is more than enough of a gift, & maybe you can go to the local reception if she takes the cancellation well.

Post # 11
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t go. Vacation time is important to me because I have family spread all over that I like to visit. If you are no longer closet to her it’s not worth it to go. It is too far away, the cost is too high, and so is the stress. Let her know soon. Maybe you say you couldn’t get the time off work. Then let it go and don’t stress about it!

Post # 13
3152 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@LurkerBee:  I think your friend may be a little obnoxious, but I don’t see any dealbreakers. Sometimes I say things off the cuff that are just a joke, but sound mean (ppl who don’t come to the wedding are losers.). Does she have that sort of personality? I think pulling out will definitely end the relationship. Are you ok with that?

Post # 15
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would still go. But maybe learn to say no. I don’t know the details of other things but RSVP’s are a real annoyance for us brides. Don’t take it personal.

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