(Closed) RSVP/Invitation etiquette PLEASE HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you are not having an inner envelope, the outer envelope should be addressed to ALL individuals invited to the wedding ie: Mr. & Mrs. Joe Smith and Family ……. (for children invited), or Mr. & Mrs. Joes Smtih ….. (no children invited)….. An unmarried couple should be addressed as: Mr. Joe Smith & Ms. Sue Jones at one of their addresses, OR each individually sent their own invites at each of their houses.

Post # 4
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My calligrapher had me do outer envelopes (We weren’t doing inner) like this

Mr. and Mrs. Smith
John, Mary, and Joseph
One Yemen Road
Yeman 11111 

Post # 5
2711 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The way you have your return label sounds just fine!

We didn’t have an inner envelope either so we just addressed the letter (on the outside) to whoever was invited.  For families we either did

A. Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith    <– Parents 

John and Miss Jane  <– Kids

B. Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith and Family

It depended on if we knew all of the children’s names.  We had a few coworkers we invited who had kids, but we didn’t know the kids’ names so we went the “and family” route there.  But if we knew the kids and especially if they were older (in hs) then we included their names.

 -For a married couple with no kids (or you aren’t inviting their kids) it should be

Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith

 -For a married couple where the wife kept her last name

Mr. Joe Smith and Mrs. Jane Doe 

-For an unmarried couple it should be

Mr. Joe Smith

Ms. Jane Doe <– Names go on seperate lines & there is no “and.” “And” implies the couple is married

Now, technicaly, if they are unmarried couple and not living together then each person should get their own invite.  However, we haven’t met some of our friends’ SOs and we thought it’d be weird if they got an invite to a wedding for a couple they don’t know so we didn’t send seperate invites.

You can also do a quick google search to find how to address specific people (such as doctors and officers in the military). 

You can definitely put your return address for the invites on the back of the envelope (that’s what we did and I do think it looks nice). 

Definitely put your address on the RSVP envelope for your guests.  I think it’s the polite thing to do.  Plus, they may toss the outer envelope and lose your address.

You don’t need to fill in their return information on the RSVP envelope nor fill in their names on the RSVP card itself.

Hope this helps!  Good luck!

ETA: Is that the correct date of your wedding?

Post # 8
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Janaic88:  Wow, you are sending these out way early. You typically send your invitations 6-8 weeks before the date.

To answer your other question, yes, put your address on the front of the RSVP envelope, with a stamp. 

Post # 11
2711 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ohhhh Save-The-Date Cards.  I was worried you were going to be sending out invites and I was like woooahhhh, slow your roll girl!  But this is a good time to be sending out STDs!

Also, to answer your question, yes, you should put your address on the RSVP card with a stamp.  Sorry I didn’t make that more clear!

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