Post # 1
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45 posts
Newbee
My invites went out way late, giving limited time for RSVPs to be mailed back to us. I was so upset over that, but this post isn’t even about that.
I don’t have large groups of friends that I’m close to. Our wedding was intimate and small with good friends and family. I feel like lately I’m finding out who are my real friends and who aren’t.
A mutual good friend of my fiance and I, lives out of state. So I knew it would be big financially for her to come. But I emailed her a month ago about something entirely different and asked at the end of the email if she thought she’d be able to make it. No response, called her no response. No RSVP, assuming she’s not coming.
Another good friend of mine shows up at my bridal shower, is in contact with my often.. and when I send a text asking if they received the invite.. no response. A week later get a RSVP in the mail with a decline.
Then a friend from work is having marital issues, and now all of a sudden doesn’t know if she’s coming.
Sorry if I’m sounding selfish… I’m sure to some extent I am. But this is my wedding and it’s a huge day for me. I would like to think my friends would 1 make the effort to be there… and if they absolutely cannot just respond to me and give me a phone call and let me know they can’t make it. Feeling really sad right now.
Post # 3
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734 posts
Busy bee
@HotPinkFire: SO SORRY…HUGS!
Post # 4
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14 posts
Newbee
I completely understand this! I moved upstate 3 years ago. I’ve made every effort to attend weddings and big events for my friends back home, and every single one of them has RSVPed no for my wedding. Its been depressing, but I’m working on accepting them a day at a time.
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
Some people are just really uncomfortable with letting people down. That’s why they don’t answer when you bring up the subject in an email.
Let’s hope they are all at least polite enough to rsvp.
Post # 6
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45 posts
Newbee
My out of state friend contacted us. She apologized and was apparently in the process of moving. It’s nice that she didn’t blow us off completely but it it turned it to another NO.
I tried to contact the college friend, who just isn’t responding at all to me.
It’s hard to believe that people can just act like that, especially ones who you care deeply about. And I get that they might feel bad about saying no, but really I’d prefer a nicely explained No over this. If all they said was oh I’m so sorry but I have a conflict, or I just can’t afford it. I’m totally fine… and whomever has said that to me already I let them know we both totally understand they cannt make it and we will try to get together with them in the future to celebrate.
But why must I hold people’s hands who are declining my wedding invites? That’s how I feel right now.
Thanks for listening ladies!
Post # 7
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Newbee
@HotPinkFire: I so feel ya! I have a very small group of friends too and it’s tough when you feel like they are not coming through. Your day is going to be great and we both can enjoy the folks who did make it to our big day.
Post # 8
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Newbee
@elimel123: Thanks! Your right. It’s just hard accepting the fact I suppose.