Post # 1
Hey Bees! 4.5 months to go and I have some invitation/rsvp questions…
1. I have alot of family members who are being invited because of course they are family, however, we don’t think many of them will come because they live several states away. I am nervous though because family members compose over half of my total guest list and even though we’re only estimating about half of the family members coming, I’m afraid more will come and there won’t be room for the friends/friends of the family that have already been sent save the dates. I was considering sending out the family invitations a little earlier and getting back those RSVPS first to be certain about what family was coming. Any thoughts bees?
2. Based on the above question, then, how early should I send my invites? SHOULD I send them in rounds like I suggested above? Also, when should I make the RSVP deadlines?
Any help is appreciated! Thanks Bees!
Post # 3
I had 15 RSVP’s have a later date on it for my “B” list. I am sending out all my “A”‘s 10 – 12 weeks before the wedding in hopes that I can get some no’s quickly and be able to invite the “B” list and still give them 8 weeks or so to RSVP.
Post # 4
It might cost more, but it might be a good idea to have two rounds of RSVP due dates. Send the family ones out at the 4 or 3.5 month mark (ie: asap!) and have their RSVP due at the 2 month mark. Then send out your second round of invites at the 3 to 2.5 month mark (or whenever you start getting some “no’s”) and have the RSVP due date at the 1 month mark.
Post # 5
Im subscribing to this thread! Im in the same boat.My Fiance has at least 2-3 families who we are inviting because they are either sisters,brothers,or uncles.When we did our list and he had me put these people down,he told me that they wont come.He said he highly doubts it.
And that whole group of people is about 15 people.Thats alot!! I have some old friends I would love to invite,but cant because all the family is using up the space!!
And I dont have the adresses of my old friends.U know the thing,people move constantly and I havent seen them in years,but we are facebook friends.I dont want to ask for their current address and then cant invite them later.(People seem to not like to give out their address without an explanation).So if I tell my old friends I need their address to invite them,and then I wind up not having room,I would feel so bad that my friends wont/will not get one.
Post # 6
I think its totally fine to have a B list.
First things first, did you send out save the dates? You have to send an invite to everyone you sent an STD to.
How are you doing the invites? Are you DIYing them, Vistaprint? Just make 10-15 RSVP cards with a later RSVP date that you can give to the “B” listers.
And usually the RSVP date is set by the caterer. Usually they want a final number 1 or 2 weeks before the wedding. So, your wedding is Dec 17th – your caterer would probably want a final head count Dec 1st. So, set the RSVP date for A listers for November 17th, and then set the B list for November 25th.