(Closed) RSVP/Invite Questions

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had 15 RSVP’s have a later date on it for my “B” list. I am sending out all my “A”‘s 10 – 12 weeks before the wedding in hopes that I can get some no’s quickly and be able to invite the “B” list and still give them 8 weeks or so to RSVP.

Post # 4
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

It might cost more, but it might be a good idea to have two rounds of RSVP due dates. Send the family ones out at the 4 or 3.5 month mark (ie: asap!) and have their RSVP due at the 2 month mark. Then send out your second round of invites at the 3 to 2.5 month mark (or whenever you start getting some “no’s”) and have the RSVP due date at the 1 month mark.

Post # 5
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Im subscribing to this thread! Im in the same boat.My Fiance has at least 2-3 families who we are inviting because they are either sisters,brothers,or uncles.When we did our list and he had me put these people down,he told me that they wont come.He said he highly doubts it.

And that whole group of people is about 15 people.Thats alot!! I have some old friends I would love to invite,but cant because all the family is using up the space!!

And I dont have the adresses of my old friends.U know the thing,people move constantly and I havent seen them in years,but we are facebook friends.I dont want to ask for their current address and then cant invite them later.(People seem to not like to give out their address without an explanation).So if I tell my old friends I need their address to invite them,and then I wind up not having room,I would feel so bad that my friends wont/will not get one.

Post # 6
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think its totally fine to have a B list.  


First things first, did you send out save the dates?  You have to send an invite to everyone you sent an STD to.  

How are you doing the invites?  Are you DIYing them, Vistaprint?  Just make 10-15 RSVP cards with a later RSVP date that you can give to the “B” listers.  

And usually the RSVP date is set by the caterer.  Usually they want a final number 1 or 2 weeks before the wedding.  So, your wedding is Dec 17th – your caterer would probably want a final head count Dec 1st.  So, set the RSVP date for A listers for November 17th, and then set the B list for November 25th.  


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