(Closed) RSVP…rules and regulations

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

maybe two weeks before your final count is due?  so i am thinking mid october?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wait until you’re a month out.  That’s how far in advance our RSVP date is.  That gives us two weeks to track down the straglers before our headcount deadline.  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d do a month out, for sure. You need time to set up your seating chart and its better to put an urgency on it. If they have email, it wouldn’t hurt to send out a mass reminder to all who haven’t responded as of now, then call in a month.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I said 4 weeks out, FH said 2 weeks out…so we compromised and decided on 3 weeks out.  🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@xenacick: I would include the website address only if there is no registry information on there.  If there is a registry section, I would skip it, as I wouldn’t want any guest to think I was directing them to that section of the site accidentally

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it depends on when you need a final head count for your reception.  Sometimes it takes a little bit to track down people, too. 

Best wishes for a beautful day and bright future!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would start calling people a week or two before your final count is due. Like we set our date a month before we need to know because knowing our friends and family, there will be straggelers. Therefore I know I will be making some calls as well. I think that is a safe timeframe. That way you have time to round up everyones responses before the count is due and your not feeling rushed and stressed out. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

The etiquette rule is, that one should reply immediately upon receiving an invitation, where “immediately” means after just enough time has elapsed to check whether you have already accepted any conflicting engagements and whether you recognize and like either of the parties getting married — and in the case of the kind of celebrity-esque exotica surrounding some modern weddings, time for the banks to open so you can review your investment portfolio to see if you can afford to attend.

So, as long as you have allowed a full two weeks for the postal service to send its trained snails to every guest’s door, plus three days for bank-balance-checking, you can start following up any time with Etiquette’s blessing.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

As some pp have said, I would work off 2 weeks before you need the final numbers. That should give you enough time to track down all your guests!

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