Post # 1
I am 60 days away from my wedding, we sent out our invitiations a little over a month ago because we have a lot of people from out of state and Hawaii on our list. We have only gotten about 30% of our guest to RSVP so far. My BIG probelm is that we forgot, yes FORGOT to put a RSVP by date on the invitations. So my question is: When is too soon to call guests to get an RSVP? Since we still have time would it be bad manners to first send them a reminder email? On the RSVP cards we included our wedding website address so people could RSVP online if they wanted to. Help!
Post # 3
maybe two weeks before your final count is due? so i am thinking mid october?
Post # 4
Wait until you’re a month out. That’s how far in advance our RSVP date is. That gives us two weeks to track down the straglers before our headcount deadline.
Post # 5
I’d do a month out, for sure. You need time to set up your seating chart and its better to put an urgency on it. If they have email, it wouldn’t hurt to send out a mass reminder to all who haven’t responded as of now, then call in a month.
Post # 6
I said 4 weeks out, FH said 2 weeks out…so we compromised and decided on 3 weeks out. 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks! I was freaking out about not having a due date with the RSVP’s. If I send everyone an email reminding them about RSVP’s (INCLUDE A DEADLINE), should I include the wedding website where they can RSVP at as well?
Post # 8
@xenacick: I would include the website address only if there is no registry information on there. If there is a registry section, I would skip it, as I wouldn’t want any guest to think I was directing them to that section of the site accidentally
Post # 9
I think it depends on when you need a final head count for your reception. Sometimes it takes a little bit to track down people, too.
Best wishes for a beautful day and bright future!
Post # 10
I would start calling people a week or two before your final count is due. Like we set our date a month before we need to know because knowing our friends and family, there will be straggelers. Therefore I know I will be making some calls as well. I think that is a safe timeframe. That way you have time to round up everyones responses before the count is due and your not feeling rushed and stressed out.
Post # 11
The etiquette rule is, that one should reply immediately upon receiving an invitation, where “immediately” means after just enough time has elapsed to check whether you have already accepted any conflicting engagements and whether you recognize and like either of the parties getting married — and in the case of the kind of celebrity-esque exotica surrounding some modern weddings, time for the banks to open so you can review your investment portfolio to see if you can afford to attend.
So, as long as you have allowed a full two weeks for the postal service to send its trained snails to every guest’s door, plus three days for bank-balance-checking, you can start following up any time with Etiquette’s blessing.
Post # 12
As some pp have said, I would work off 2 weeks before you need the final numbers. That should give you enough time to track down all your guests!