Post # 1
were you surprised by how many people responded no?
we are inviting 200 people. I’ve gone down the list and taken a guess at who will probably make it and who probably won’t. My best guess is that about 165 people will attend. I’m wondering though — Will I be surprised to have more people respond no? my best guess means all my family will come. friends from out of town probaby won’t want to make the drive. it is a friday – I’m assuming people will take off work and come.
What was the trend of your responses? More people attending than you expected? Less people than you expected?
Post # 3
@sarg88: Yep. People I would have thought would be there declined. Prepare yourself 🙁 We invited 178 and only 117 people that actually accepted.
Post # 4
Any close family decline? Were there any big upsets? Did people respond yes and then not show?
Post # 5
I invited 150, and 104 RSVP’d yes. 4 did not show!
Post # 6
We invited 194.. at first it was all yes’ and I was worried it was going to be a high attendence so I was estimating like 170-180 people. We ended up with 164 on the final count, and I think 160 actually attended.
Post # 7
We invited about 145 people, and I was kind of expecting 130 to show up. So far I’ve received NO no’s. my guests stil have until May 20 to RSVP, so I’m expecting a few no’s will show up in the next couple of days. But so far I think I definitely underestimated how many people would come.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
So far a lot more people have RSVPd yes than I expected…family I haven’t talked to for years, never see, etc. I expect that this has a lot to do with the fact that the wedding is in Vegas, and people just want any reason to go.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
We invited 117 with a capacity of 100 (but we knew for sure that some people would not be able to come… they still deserve the courtesy of an invitation–so this wasn’t as risky as it sounds).
We expected about 90, but we got 83 (including ourselves).
Post # 10
Oooh, this will be interesting. We’re inviting 99 close friends and family (including the bridal party) and I’m estimating that 88 will come (that’s removing those who are out of town/out of the country/have already said they can’t make it).
Post # 11
Hmmm…we pretty much called it on the nose…there were a few family members on his side who we thought would come but couldn’t make it due to international travel visa issues, but otherwise we were accurate on who could come and who couldn’t, and I wouldn’t consider being 4 people off on our estimate truly overestimating…
Post # 12
We invited 73 and only 47 said yes … which is actually good, because we wanted no more than 50. But we sincerely didn’t think 50 was possible until some key member of my family declined (sister, grandma, grandpa, uncle, mom …). It would be an out-of-state wedding for all of them and that caused a lot of strain.
Post # 13
We invited around 200 and had around 135 say yes (all of them showed), which is almost exactly what we were expecting since most of our guests were from out of state.
Post # 14
We invited a lot of guests from out of town. I’m surprised (and a little saddened) by how many people declined. We invited 183 people. About 110 will actually be there.
Post # 15
FWIW, I went through our whole guest list and made an honest estimate of who I thought would and would not make the trip from out of state, and got 120 out of 178 for a likely attendance rate. We are inviting a lot of friends and distant family from out of state, but it is unlikely most of them will come. We’ve prepared for 150, but I don’t think we will get that many yes’s.
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
We invited 150 people, and made a spreadsheet with each person having a probability of attending (0 is “wouldn’t come if their life depended on it”, 1 is “wouldn’t miss it for the world”, .7 is “probably”, etc) and added up the values. That gave us our expected head count of 120, but now we are looking at a headcount of 110. So, we got close, but we still overestimated.
When you get down to the deadline, *most* of those slackers will end up saying no. Because even as we got RSVPs throughout the months and updated the spreadsheet accordingly, our expected was still at 120. It wasn’t until we started nagging people on facebook/phonecall that our expected went down to 110.