(Closed) RSVP's for People Who Weren't Invited

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

hikingbride :  I agree with this.  I gave in and invited some people for my MIL’s sake and they were complete assholes at my wedding.  I was mortified.  They came with both of their kids who were bad enough, but then the wife interrupted the picture-taking and the husband SCREAMED at me drunk, more than once.  I was thinking, um, you’re welcome for inviting you?  And they gave the smallest amount – which normally I would not give a crap about but that was just further proof about how they weren’t worth it.  Don’t give in on anyone on your guest list ever. 

Post # 17
1604 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I  would just say, very sorry,  small wedding, we cannot invite everyone.  We would love to see them some other time.   Just think about all the people you would have liked to invite.   My guess is people who invite themselves, or have others do, are people more likely to not behave well. 

Post # 18
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

you handled this much better than i did! my husband has a HUGE HUGE family and we simply couldn’t invite everyone. A 300 person wedding is completely unrealistic. Unfortunately what his family did was 1: add other people to their RSVPs (even though it said x number of seats have been reserved for you) 2: people that couldn’t come (instead of declining) GAVE their invitation to someone else!!! We numbered the backs of our invitations and corresponded each number to a peron or persons so when invitations started coming back with people’s names that we didn’t invite but RSVPd we had to call the original receiver of the invitation and be like “what happened here?” and there were some people that were uninvited. I’m still mind blown that people would add other people to their RSVP and give their invitation to someone else. Like… this isn’t a BBQ. it’s a wedding. I made my husband call all those people and THEY had to be the ones to deal with uninviting their guests to our wedding. So awkward. 

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