Post # 1
Newbie here, but been lurking for a quite a while. I just need to vent a little bit I guess. Our RSVPs were due back today, and of course we still have several question marks!
Or how about the people who tell you they are coming but they never sent their RSVP back. How should I handle those? The thing is, at this point if they are coming they should know for sure, since we are getting married in Las Vegas!
We are paying for everything ourselves, and as cheap as I may sound I don’t want to pay for food for someone who said they are coming but isn’t going to show up. We are on an extrmelly tight budget. (But who isn’t these days?)
I have a friend on Facebook who I’ve never even met, barely talk to, she kind of just friended me one day and we talk occasionally. She’s from England and she made sure to get our address so she could send us a card, but yet some of our friends don’t have the courtesy to send back RSVPs that are pre-stamped? Ugh! It’s very frustrating!
I can’t believe that some of our friends don’t have enough respect to check yes or no and put the card in an evelope! (I swear I’m not a biotch! lol)
Guess my question is how should I handle those who said they are coming, but never sent anything back.
Maybe count for an extra 2 or 3 people just in case?
Post # 3
My RSVPs are due the 6th. My reception is on the 17th 😀
Um, I am calling everyone who does not send one back. I need to know how many
people I am feeding, duh, right? I already asked 2 co-workers today if they were
going to send or hand them to me, geez what is so hard? They said they don’t know
what song to put * I asked what song would get them on the dance floor*, is it really
that hard? I would say 50% of my guests have not responded, it’s quite nerve
wracking! I would call them……. It is your day.
Post # 4
@vampywolfgirl: Call them, it’s going to be the easiest way. Right now I’m dealing with FI’s family from overseas that have had their invited since May and one of them continues to lie and say he’s “trying” to come while telling his sister who is coming he isn’t coming. We sent their invites early because we know they’ll have to apply for visa’s and such and are going to use their spots for others if they don’t come. This guy not coming free’s up 4 spots, JUST TELL US ALREADY AND STOP LYING. Ugh sorry for threadjacking your post just made me think of it all!
Post # 5
Just call or email them “Hi, just touching base as we didn’t receive your RSVP. I need to confirm that you are in fact coming as the caterer wants our final count tomorrow.”
Post # 6
Yeah, we are going to have to start making calls. Luckily our guestlist wasn’t that big but still we will have about 50% of them to call.
Post # 7
Definitely call, you need to know final numbers. And considering it is Destination Wedding people know whether or not they have booked a plane ticket.
Post # 8
If your deadline was today, I’d give it a few more days since some people mail them back at the last possible moment. How long you give them (I think around a week is standard) depends on when your final counts are due – and how patient you are. 🙂
Once you’ve waited whatever you deem to be an adequate amount of time, start calling people, or delegate the task to others: have your mom or Future Mother-In-Law call if they’re close to the guests in question, or your Fiance if it’s his friend, etc.
If it makes you feel any better, I had a guest tell me, “We probably won’t send back the RSVP card, but we’re coming!” Uh, no. I’m paying for postage for you to send it back to me, is it really that hard for you to drop a card in the mail?!