(Closed) RSVPs Vs. Actual Numbers

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How accurate were your RSVPs
    Everyone who RSVPed showed up/Exact Count : (2 votes)
    22 %
    I had a few surprise guests AND a few no-shows/It balanced out : (1 votes)
    11 %
    Everyone who RSVPed showed up AND I had a few surprise guests/We went over : (0 votes)
    I had a few no-shows and a few surprise guests/It balanced out : (0 votes)
    Other/Explain : (3 votes)
    33 %
    No Surprise Guests AND a few no-shows/We went under : (3 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’m just going to put this out there— if we have surprised guests I will be PISSED. It is not a hoe-down, its a wedding. If you RSVP no, do not come. (argh… we had 2 extras show up to my plated lunch shower… i was annoyed).

    Post # 4
    Member
    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think you need to have more poll options because we had no surprise guests and that may apply to other people as well.

    For us, the week before the wedding FI’s 20 year old cousin, cousin’s dad and cousin’s gf told us that they could not attend. This was very understandable and expected because FI’s cousin had been hospitalized and almost died.

    An old friend of my mother’s also told us 3 days before the wedding that she could not attend because she was ill and could not travel. Totally understandable although sad not to have her there.

    Then 2 people no showed to the wedding. This was one of my husband’s co-workers and his fiance. We found out later that a toilet had overflowed at their house and they were busy cleaning up. Not the best, but whatever.

    Post # 6
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    3620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We had a few people not show, but it was for reasons that were understandable. Wehad one surprise guest, but it was a surprise in that we really thought he wasn’t going to come once we told him he couldn’t bring a date… he didn’t talk to us for weeks after we told him no on the date, so we didn’t knowthat he was going to show. Fortunately, I insisted to Darling Husband that since hisoriginal RSVP was a Yes for two, we would put him down as a Yes for one, and make his place card and put him at a table… good thing we did, because we would have looked like the @$$holes if we assumed he wasn’t coming and he had no place to sit!

    Post # 7
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    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @tseay:On your wedding day just roll with it and don’t let the surprises upset you. It’s really not worth it. The catering company can handle the situation because they run these types of events all the time. We did lose money on the people who called out last minute or no showed, but I just have not given much thought to the money lost. It’s not worth it to me because there is no way to change the circumstances.

    Post # 8
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    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We had 92 RSVP yes, and 85 showed up on the day.  2 came to the ceremony but decided to skip the reception, telling us that they don’t get to this area often and “wanted to make it worth the trip” and went to do touristy stuff.  Still annoyed about that…

    So paid for 92, 83 actually attended.

    Post # 10
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    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @tseay: yeah went to a wedding a couple of years ago and some family members showed up with their 3 uninvited kids! The bride was just nice to them and did not really address the situation. The catering company figured out what to do, and everything was fine.

    Once I got to the weeks right before my wedding I really saw that my catering company knew their stuff, so I let them and my DOC handle everything. I just wanted to be the bride!

    Post # 11
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    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    We had planned for just over 100 guests for our reception. 2 guests called a few days before to tell us that they would no longer be able to make it due to a death in the family. This was before our final count so it didn’t hurt us at all. 2 other guests just didn’t show. We later found out that their young son was sick and they couldn’t make the trip (about 3.5 hours by car).

    Post # 13
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We had only 2 no shows – 1 of them was the bf of DHs cousin and we knew there was a chance he wasnt going to be able to come but they never actually told us he wasnt coming he just wasnt there…..the other was a “friend” of mine who texted me 2 days before the wedding saying she had a work training she didnt know about (BS) so she couldnt come…..that was it!

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