(Closed) RSVP’s : Who the heck sent it?!

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I received an RSVP that was numbered on the back.  It was in pen in very small writing in one of the corners.  It was a family friend, so my mom told me that they had an Xcel spreadsheet number and RSVP had the same number.  They also worried about what you are…I think its a good idea to elviate your stress! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
2 posts

One of the bees blogged about using an invisible pen or something like that.  It might be an option if you don’t want the number to show.  I personally don’t care if there is a number visible on the back of the card.


Post # 5
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

i’m using an invisible pen. it shows up under blacklight. i got it at the container store a few months ago.

Post # 6
24 posts
  • Wedding: June 2008

i had an excel spreadsheet of the guest list. i printed it out, making sure the numbers were visible. then when it came time to assemble the invitations i wrote the number (in pencil) on the back of the rsvp on the corner, corresponding to their number on the excel spreadsheet. i used a pencil so that it was very light and you can’t easily see it from the front, and it ensures there are no pen bleed throughs. however, i am using an ivory colored cardstock, so if you have a dark one, you may have to use a pen. i think as long as it’s small and in an inconspicuous spot, it should be fine and hopefully barely noticeable.

Post # 7
22 posts
  • Wedding: October 2008

I used mail merge so the guests name is printed right on the RSVP, as well it make the guest/ no guest issue perfectly clear…

Post # 8
378 posts
Helper bee

I’ll be going the invisible pen route as I also have a numbered excel spreadsheet.

Post # 9
13 posts
  • Wedding: June 2018

I used pencil in light writing on the upper right hand side of the back to number and have it corresponding to an excel worksheet. On this worksheet, I also had columns for "Save the date" (if I sent them one), Invitation, RSVP (yes or no and how many if yes), gift (to put what it was), and thank you note (if I have sent one). It has been So very helpful to have all of this information in one place so that I know all of this at one glance. 


Good luck! 

Post # 10
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

Pencil on the back, coded to an Excel list.

Want to hear a funny story? I had a friend who sent out her invites (she’s the one who advised me to pencil # the back) and got back an RSVP. The M__________________ line was filled in:  M_e___________

My mom filled hers in M_om_&_Dad___, but she was just trying to be cute.

Post # 11
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

We printed adress labels (3 per adress). 1 for the invitation, 1 for the thank you card, 1 for the RSVP envelope. By putting the adress label of the sender on the RSVP envelope and a stamp chances of people responding are very high. So far I was able to verify everyone that has RSVPed by the adress label attached to the outer envelope. No need to use invisble ink. HTP!

Post # 12
45 posts
  • Wedding: August 2008

I was super paranoid about people bringing uninvited guests, so I filled out every card with their full name (and no extra space for any other name)

On a side note, I got my first RSVP back today and guess what?  It wasn’t filled out at all!  They didn’t check either will attend or will not attend and didn’t choose an entree.  They pretty much just sealed the rsvp envelope and stuck it in the mail without looking at it.  What do I do with people like this?  Assume they’re not coming?  ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 13
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I’m putting the names directly on the RSVP card myself when I print them off. I need to do this because we are giving a meal choice and we need to know what each individual person is chosing. Also! This way people can’t add extra guests into the RSVP card ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
6 posts

I’m having the same dilemma.

I plan on the number system like many of the other posters. However, we are playing around with the idea of writing a small number inside the RSVP envelope somewhere where we could see it if we tore the envelope open further after realizing there was no name on the card. But for many that’s a little over the top….

Post # 15
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I did the same thing that Camille did.  On the RSVP envelope, the printer pre-printed my name and address as the "addressee". 

I printed each guest’s name and address in a nice font on clear labels and stuck them on the back of the RSVP envelopes to serve as the "return" address.

That way, if they forget to fill out the card, the envelope would tell me who it came from. 

Fifi…Almost everyone gets a response card back that’s blank or not checked!  Since you know who the RSVP is from, I’d suggest calling them and thanking them for sending it back so quickly, then confirm the details from there.

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