(Closed) RSVPS :( Why does it have to be SO HARD!?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
854 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

So sorry you’re going though this.  Maybe for the seating place cards(?) having one for the main invitee and for the “+1” a card that states “Guest of “John Doe””.  He may not be the only one who’s not sure who they’re brining. 

Post # 4
5189 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@laneylaney:  haha my friend AND my dad’s friend are doing the same thing. Neither one of them know if they’re bringing someone or who that someone will be.

Post # 5
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant

This is like my worst nightmere for when we send out the invitations.  I can’t really tell you what to do because I am not in that position yet, but I think it is extremely rude for people to add on guests.  I would speak up (in a polite way) and tell them the extras are NOT invited, expecially people you don’t know!  It’s a hard situation though…

Post # 6
4691 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Anyone who asked me for a us one, I said “I’m sorry but the space is limited, so we can’t accommodate extra guests.”


Post # 7
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

haha, getting rsvps back kinda sucked we sent 160 and ended up with 103 guests which is an amount i woulda been happy with……..except for the fact that we have to pay for 125 regardless b/c that’s the venue’s minimum

Post # 8
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

As for plus ones you can state “the room only holds ____ and we currently do not have a place for your SO.  However, if room does become available after we receive our RSVP’s, we will contact you and we will gladly extend the invite for your SO”. 


This is what I plan on doing…..

Post # 9
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@laneylaney:  this is precisely why I filled in the number on our RSVPs where it states “__ number of guests attending.” I am not accepting any add ons under any circumstances. 

Post # 11
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That’s why I did the “We have reserved X seats in your honor” thing.  We have fire codes to think of, because our reception room is on the smaller side.  We tried really hard to account for everyone to have someone to travel with, and kids and who might tell who about the wedding and everything, so we haven’t had any problems, but I think it’s helpful to people!


I’m so sorry you’re having this trouble ๐Ÿ™

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