(Closed) RSVPS…is this normal?

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We only got about half or less too.  This seems to be a common thing with many brides on here.  I don’t know why people are so weird.  I never ignore an RSVP.

Post # 4
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I know it’s not the same thing but I sent out formal invitations to my sisters shower and know everyone has had them for over a week and I have only heard back from 7 out of 60. Oh, and the RSVP is to call or email me, so not even mail something back.

Post # 5
4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Normal? No. Common? Seems like it. Sorry!

Post # 6
2432 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had less than half in by the deadline date. Start e-mailing and calling as soon as you can. Recruit parents, fiance, siblings, and whoever else you can to assist in the calling.

Post # 7
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I just posted on this today also. I was hoping to avoid it, but it looks like it happens to everyone. I’m giving people about a week, and then enlisting my mom and Future Mother-In-Law to start calling people up. Hang in there, you’re not alone!

Post # 8
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

I JUST counted mine. We sent out 225. Right now, there are 12 unaccounted for responses but we know who they are and are 97% sure they are all coming.

We did RSVP’s online thru our website except for the most tech unsavvy, whom we mailed out traditional cards.

I emailed a kind reminder to everyone who didn’t respond 3 days before the deadlne (and had Fiance do the same) so we got about 30-40 more after that.

Post # 9
4381 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

People fail at RSVPing. It sucks. I’m not looking forward to that process. 🙁

Post # 10
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My deadline was September 1st and I am still missing about 30 (including 2 bridesmaids).  It’s so frustrating, but I knew it was going to work out this way.

I don’t think people understand that I’m waiting for their response to order favors, programs, meals, centerpieces, cake…it feels like everything depends on how many people are coming.

I even had one person reply yes, but when I had my mom call her to find out the last name of her date, she said “Oh, we’re trying to come, but probably won’t be able to.”


Post # 11
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Go Noles – the bridesmaids might not think they have to send it back since they are part of the wedding and have already committed to being there.

I wonder how this will work for us, especially since in France it is apparantly a huge insult to provide people with a reply card (I guess they see it as condescending, like you don’t trust them to be responsible and mature enough to answer on their own so you’ve provided materials for them).  Anyway, they are just supposed to write to the address that you provide on the invite.  I am really interested to see if people actually do write / call.  Will also be interesting to see what percentage of French guests reply w/o a designated reply card as opposed to the Americans who will be receiving one.


Post # 12
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

Ditto!  We sent out 225 and have gotten back about 120….with 100 outstanding and 3 days away for RSVP.  Yikes!

Post # 13
2633 posts
Sugar bee

Wow – I’m sorry everyone is having such a rough time getting their RSVP’s back!  I mean, how hard is it?  The envelope is pre addressed and pre-stamped after all! 

Keeping my fingers crossed that I don’t have this issue as well!

Post # 14
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think it’s pretty common. One thing that helped us and probably prevented a lot of straggler-harrassing was that I posted a reminder on Facebook as my status a couple days before the deadline… just something like “Worcesterbride can’t wait to get the rest of the RSVP’s!” A lot of people said that the facebook post reminded them to mail it on time. IDK if you & your guests are on facebook, but I thought it was a good, non-pushy way to remind people to get their RSVP’s in the mail.

Post # 15
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

This is very common, and frustrating! We even sent out a follow-up email to people 3 days ago, and most people haven’t even replied to that! It has put us both in a bit of a foul mood. Do people have any clue how hard it is to plan a wedding, much less having to track people down?

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