(Closed) RSVPs..when to start bugging people??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

We are giving ourselves 2 weeks before the wedding for our RSVP date. After that, we will begin contatcing the stragglers.

Post # 4
16194 posts
Honey Beekeeper

As soon as your deadline is up, you have the right to start following up…

Post # 5
2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I would give them a week after the deadline, if you can.

Post # 6
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I started bugging people the day before the rsvp deadline (mainly family and close friends) then I had my mom start bugging everyone who hadn’t rsvp’d the monday after our deadline since our deadline was a friday.

Post # 7
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Super frustrating…we dealt with this, too.

If your venue won’t penalize you for a late response, I’d wait till a few days after the deadline to start bugging people…that gives time for any rsvps sent on the deadline to get back to you. After that, it’s fair game to start calling people.

Post # 8
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I waited until the day after the RSVP deadline. I wouldn’t contact people before the deadline is up unless you actually need your head count on that same day.

Post # 9
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

our rsvp date is a Sunday; I figure we’ll start emailing on Tuesday and calling on Saturday. 🙂

Post # 10
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

We waited until the day after the deadline to start bugging. But if we saw people before that we casually mentioned it.

Post # 11
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would wait for a week after the deadline if possible.  A lot of people see the RSVP date and don’t drop it into the mail until that day, so I’d give it a few days past the date before following up.

Post # 12
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

am i horrible that I started 2 days before deadline?  We had about 40 stragglers.  I was polite about it – we mostly wanted a verbal answer and could wait on the card for a few more days.  I also delegated these follow-ups: our mutual friends to our Maid/Matron of Honor, FH’s family to his mom and dad, my family to my dad, and FH’s friends to him.  That way, it was more like inquiring, and not having a bitchy bride (or her crazy mom) being a pest.

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