Post # 1
We have 5 days until our RSVP deadline and only 11 of 164 have responded….
we addressed and added postage to the RSVP envelope…what is the deal??
When should we start bugging people? Should we give them a week after the deadline–in case they are just late in mailing out? I dont get it…all you have to do is check yes or no and walk out to your mailbox….
Post # 3
We are giving ourselves 2 weeks before the wedding for our RSVP date. After that, we will begin contatcing the stragglers.
Post # 4
As soon as your deadline is up, you have the right to start following up…
Post # 5
I would give them a week after the deadline, if you can.
Post # 6
I started bugging people the day before the rsvp deadline (mainly family and close friends) then I had my mom start bugging everyone who hadn’t rsvp’d the monday after our deadline since our deadline was a friday.
Post # 7
Super frustrating…we dealt with this, too.
If your venue won’t penalize you for a late response, I’d wait till a few days after the deadline to start bugging people…that gives time for any rsvps sent on the deadline to get back to you. After that, it’s fair game to start calling people.
Post # 8
I waited until the day after the RSVP deadline. I wouldn’t contact people before the deadline is up unless you actually need your head count on that same day.
Post # 9
our rsvp date is a Sunday; I figure we’ll start emailing on Tuesday and calling on Saturday. 🙂
Post # 10
We waited until the day after the deadline to start bugging. But if we saw people before that we casually mentioned it.
Post # 11
I would wait for a week after the deadline if possible. A lot of people see the RSVP date and don’t drop it into the mail until that day, so I’d give it a few days past the date before following up.
Post # 12
am i horrible that I started 2 days before deadline? We had about 40 stragglers. I was polite about it – we mostly wanted a verbal answer and could wait on the card for a few more days. I also delegated these follow-ups: our mutual friends to our Maid/Matron of Honor, FH’s family to his mom and dad, my family to my dad, and FH’s friends to him. That way, it was more like inquiring, and not having a bitchy bride (or her crazy mom) being a pest.