Rude and Disrespectful, thinks shes Queen Sister in-law

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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harleybaby :  Your posts are REALLY hard to follow… do you all live together? 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

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harleybaby :  1. How old is she? How old are you?

2. I mean, yeah. Don’t want her to comment on how your room looks? Keep your door shut. If you know she’s just like that, don’t give her any easy targets. It doesn’t matter about what’s right or fair – you can’t change how she is, all you can change is how you handle her.

3. Does her opinion actually matter? So what if she makes snide remarks all the time? You say she’s always starting shit, but it’s really hard to start shit when no one reacts. Snide comment? Ignore her. Keep talking about whatever you were talking about, or change the subject. Act like you didn’t even hear her. She’ll get bored.

4. Just invite her to the wedding. If you don’t, she’s just going to either crash it, or start even more shit, spread rumors, or whatever else she can think of as “payback.” Plus your in laws probably won’t be so understanding of you not inviting her. Overall, it’s just not worth the drama when you can just ignore her.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Obviously she’s your BEC at this point but really bee.  Why do you give this girl so much real estate in your head?  Why do you let anything she says get to you?  WHY DO YOU CARE WHAT SHE THINKS?? 

and before you say you don’t…..you do.  You wouldn’t have created this post if you didn’t.

She knows your buttons and pushes them and she’s never disappointed. That’s how she plays.  Soooo the obvious course of action for you to take is to stop playing.  Ignore her….she’s not crucial to your life so stop letting the word garbage get to you.  People who are truly happy don’t spend their time trying to make others’ lives miserable…so that should tell you a lot about her. 

Try being the mature one in this scenario bee and let that ish roll off your back.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Move out of his mother’s home, get your own home, away from them, limit how much you see the sister, and stop letting everything she says get to you  

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Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

She just wants to press your buttons. Unfortunately she is going to be there as long as you live with his mom. Nothing to do but be distant and kill her w kindness. Work hard save your money and move out so she is not always over 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

Do you guys have plans to move out of his mother’s house?  

Post # 24
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Honey bee

Move into your own home. Be the grey rock and ignore her shenanigans.

Post # 25
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Helper bee

I’m so confused…

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper

You won’t have to finalize your invitation list for almost a year, will you? Why stress about this now?

Start with getting out of your FMIL’s house and limiting contact. 

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t understand what you are saying 

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Honestly , you sound so immature. I would help if you could construct a well-written post. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee

If she says something you don’t like just say something like “ok” , “I see” or “I am sorry you feel that way” and leave it at that. 

I would talk to your fiance and see what he thinks about the whole situation and come to a decision together. Does she treat him the same way?

Personally I would just invite both of them and go on with my day. I wouldn’t spend any time with her on purpose but if I had to then it is what it is. She is going to be apart of your life and she probably isn’t going to change. 

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