(Closed) Rude comments about baby bump :(

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

As long as your doctor says that you’re progressing normally, and not to worry, then I wouldn’t worry.  I have a sister who is very tall and stick thin, and even at 9 months she barely looked pregnant.  Where I am starting my 4th month, and you can absolutely tell.

The health of your baby is something that you should really only take up with your doctor.  I’m sorry people are being so insensitive, as if you wouldn’t worry about your baby being healthy enough on your own!

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I have only had one baby but I also had IUGR.  Did your OB tell you what caused it the last time? I have been told I will need to take baby aspirin for my next pregnancy to avoid IUGR (to help increase the blood flow to the placenta).  I don’t think it has anything to do with total pounds you gain though. I gained a normal amount of weight although my belly size and my baby measured small.  IT all just went to my hips and ass ๐Ÿ™‚

Are they measuring the baby during ultrasound appointments? IT seems like something you should talk to your dr about given your prior IUGR and your small size….

ETA: I also got a ton of comments from people about how small I was (belly only) and although I am sure they thought that was a positive comment, it made me feel bad, as though I wasn’t the right size for my baby and something was wrong ๐Ÿ™  I have learend to NEVER comment on a pregnant woman’s size – there is really no benefit.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I can empathize. I have gained around 30 pounds (so it’s definitely not a matter of me not eating enough!) yet for some reason I don’t have that much of a belly. I mean, I do, but not one that looks like I am going to give birth in the next week or two. I am not really sure why that is, because as I said, the weight gain is certainly there. Anyways, husband is all paranoid and constantly up my butt about not eating enough protein which is super annoying. On top of that, my doctor is always threatening me with additional ultrasounds since I am so consistently under the guidelines for how many cms I should be (usually about 3-4 cm smaller than how many weeks I am). And it does hurt my feelings when someone comments that the baby is probably super small just because I am not sticking out that much. Well, maybe she is just curled up! (I also think the extra weight has gone to my boobs and hips and partially obscures the belly). Anyways, if your doctor isn’t worried, I wouldn’t be either.

I agree with @Janna19 – no good can come from commenting on a pregnant woman’s size. Even if you think it’s a compliment, it may not be taken that way.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

i was kinda ass backwards. haha. i didn’t gain much with my first. i didn’t even really show until about 5 months with my son. and at 9 months i only looked what most thought was 5 or 6. he was 6 lbs 9 oz and two weeks early but perfectly healthy.

i gained 30 lbs with my daughter and seriously started showing at 2 months. she was still only 7 lbs.

every pregnancy is different. don’t let anyone bother you or freak you out.

congratulations on your third blessing!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am 31 weeks along and honestly my baby bump is not that big.  I still can fit in most of my clothes. I really wouldn’t worry as long as your doctor says you are okay than you should be fine.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I always was told it just depends on where the egg attaches to the uterus, if you aren’t showing much that the baby is probably in the back of the uterus… That said, I’ve never been pregnant…

My sister has three kids and she was progressively smaller with each one, I say as long as the doctor thinks things are fine… Try not to worry.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I got some very rude comments when I was pregnant with my daughter. I am a tiny girl to begin with and have never been able to gain weight. I got enormous boobs and a cute little baby bump. Probably gained about 15 lb total. Apparently because I didn’t gain in my arms, butt, thighs etc I must have been starving my baby! People actually said this! So rude. I had a perfectly healthy pregnancy, my daughter was 6 lb 14 Oz. I always heard average was 6-8 lb and anything over was on the bigger side. As long as your doctor isn’t worried just ignore people. Oh yeah and I never bought one item of maternity clothes except the belly band. I fit back into my old jeans the day after giving birth, put on a bikini and my stomach looked exactly the same as before being pregnant. Remember thus baby you’re having has different genetics so it makes sense your pregnancy may be different than the last ones.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I am in a similar boat, except i am 36 weeks along. I really dont look that pregnant, people even say i dont want to ask but are you pregnant? and then say wow your so small. My husband worried as well, my doctor said that we are measuring fine. Now i have gained weight in my hips, thighs and butt so i guess its just the way this pregnancy is, but i never would say to someone, wow your huge or wow your small, that can make people feel bad about something you really cant control.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@mrskisstobe:

Darling Husband was also a 10 lb baby! So I was terrified of having some huge baby. I also carried my daughter super low the whole time, people insisted she was a boy from the way I carried. I never once felt her anywhere near my ribs which was awesome, I’ve heard some horror stories about bruising on the ribs from being kicked there.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would only pay attention to what the OB says. If your doctor is also commenting that you havent gained enough weight then thats something you need to work on but if the doctor says everything is fine I would ignore  everyone else.

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