(Closed) Rude comments about ring before it even arrives!

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Honey bee

CA_bee:  Simple solution: stop letting other people’s words upset you. Words only hold the power that you allow them to. I’m sure your ring is lovely.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

CA_bee:  Why give other people the power to steal your joy? Who gives a ___ what these people think? As long as the two of you are happy, that’s all that matters.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

His co-workers aren’t really being friends. They may be close, but they’re also rude. Please reassure your boyfriend, and let him know that you’d be proud to wear ANY ring he gave you. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

His coworkers rather suck, and have no bearing on your relationship. Why do THEY get to decide how and where you spend your money, how involved or not you are, and so on.  Answer..they don’t.

And 1 carat (at .96, you can round up, IMO) is hardly “small”. Hell, even if your ring was 0.1 carat that was totally rude of his coworker assuming she was serious and not just joking with him.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

People are rude and sometimes stupid. Don’t let it get you down! Give him a big hug and tell him you’re sure they are wrong because you have total faith in him and his choice. then snuggle up and enjoy this time together:-) 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley

Ignoring people’s rude comments is easier said than done.  We also ordered from Blue Nile (our center stone & we picked out a setting together at a local jeweler) and I also heard rude comments about how “that’s not how you’re supposed to do it…” “you picked your ring, how unromantic…” “you gout a diamond online??” blah blah blah.  I too got upset and vented about how those comments made me feel.  There’s nothing wrong with that!

Every one has their own way, what’s right for one might be weird to another.  Rude people suck!  Once you are engaged and your ring is on your finger, you’ll move on to the next stage of the journey and those comments will likely start bugging you less and less.

Also, for what it’s worth… after going through Blue Nile I was extreamly impressed with the quality and cost savings of their diamonds.  Even my jeweler admitted that we got a great stone for the price.  I’m sure your ring is perfect!  Congrats on the exciting journey that is to come!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Personally I wouldn’t let their opinions bother you. You’re going to hear a lot of I wouldnt do this or I wouldn’t do that during the wedding planning process. Don’t sweat it. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

“that’s an interesting assumption – you think I’m incapable of making a decision?  you think my future wife shouldn’t have an opinion on the ring she’ll wear forever? you think everyone has to have a monster on their hand to feel loved?”  

If they’re going to be rude about it, he can turn around whatever they say and toss it back in their faces – foot in mouth.  They are being really thoughtless.  Some of us like small, dainty, purchase via the internet rings! I’d have been less happy if my guy had picked mine out all on his own – this way we got the best of both of our opinions.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

Lesson learned…stop talking about personal details that really is not business of other people.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wow they are rude!  I will never understand why some people think it is okay and their place to judge and make comments about other people’s rings.  Any comments other than something along the lines of it being beautiful are not necessary.  It sounds like your ring is beautiful.  Ignore the rude comments and definitely don’t let them ruin this for you two.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Don’t let anyone’s opinion ruin your happiness!!! What matters is that the love of your life is going to propose to you!!! 

People love to spread negativity and ruin other other people’s joy! They shouldn’t be making such rude comments, nor is it their business to know the specs of your ring. 

Enjoy every moment of the propsal and egagement!! You’ll be over the moon when he puts that rock on your finger! Don’t let anyone take away from that!!!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Really rude, but learn from it — don’t share with people until after the actions are done. It doesn’t make it ok for them to say it, but I feel like people are more likely to feel like they can share unflattering comments or “advice” or opinions when they think iwhatever it is can still be changed. So commenting on the ring before he proposes. Or another example, don’t tell people the baby name you pick till after the kid is born. As you plan the wedding and just moving forward, if others’ opinions are enough to hurt you, don’t share those details with them until it’s time for people to know. Like let them find out where your wedding is being held when they get the invite!

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