(Closed) Rude Comments on Engagement / Unwanted Information

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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2570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

OMG! What a rude outlandish woman. I wonder how many people she has in her life that she can talk to, because it sounds like she has no one else, and for that I feel bad for her.

I have been with my Fiance for 8 years, and I usually purposfully leave out that detail when talking about our relationship in public because of the outlandish responses I’ve gotten before. “He must not love you. He doesn’t really want to marry you. You must not want children.” etc. etc. etc. 

Bottom line: people can be assholes.

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Good Lord, she made herself into the fool, not you. 

I just had an “aw, your ring is so cute!” (at 1ct with .50 ct total weight on side stones). Her’s was significantly larger but not my style so I do not understand the judgment on a smaller ring. Simply different style choices. Also advice on how I should have the *perfect* wedding -as in a replication of her’s-. Golly Gosh, can’t imagine why that woman was not invited. 

Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and they all stink to others. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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olivebutton :  Totally! Excuse me for not pressuring my Fiance like you had to Biotch.

Hey I noticed you are sorta new here, make sure to not delete the : when replying or it doesn’t link to our accounts!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

My wedding 23 years ago was in my inlaws big house, and I got “I would nevvvvvvvvvver want that kind of wedding”. Ok fine, you have whatever wedding you want, and this is what I am having and we are happy with it.

About the engagement, just the “oh don’t get married, divorce is so painful, just live together”. Okay your marriage or your brothers or whosever might have stunk, but I am still going to try for myself.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

i told someone about my wedding idea and got back a “that’s stupid. i never want that for my wedding.” 

lucky for her, shes not engaged.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

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olivebutton :  Oh hell, I would have told her are you married? Because if you are he’s probably waiting for the day you roll over and if you’re not I can understand!

I’m just rude by nature if you come at me like that.

When my husband asked me to marry him I was 21, and he was 25. I wore my engagement ring to work and I had a long time client of mine who had a crush (which I knew about) and when he saw the ring he flipped.

“Is that what I think it is? I hope he has money, because I could have bought you the world.”

I just smiled “He’s rich at heart, and everywhere else. But thank you.”

 

Post # 10
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1965 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

When we are asked the date*, we get “that’s way too long! Why are waiting for long?!”. I didn’t think a “maybe” date of March 2018 was that long. 

We want to take our time and make the best decisions we can. 

*why do people think the moment the ring is on you have a date? I really don’t understand. I thought you had to talk to a venue to even see if they had the date available?! We’ve been engaged a week damnit. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I haven’t gotten anything that directly rude, but I’ve recieved all the advice and day 1 tips I would never ask for from a coworker and her fairweather fiance. I gotta hand it to her though, she probably does know so much more about wedding planning, and has every right to patronize me. I’m sure you don’t just make it through 2 years and 8 breakups worth of being engaged to the same dude without learning a thing or two, right? … Right?

Post # 12
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448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Why is “cute” derogatory? I say things are “cute” all the time without meaning to be bitchy – to me it just means a sort of whimsical or understated elegant. My friend wore a “cute” outfit the other day, because it was a really lovely festive burgundy sweater over a (very expensive looking) silver blouse.

If you live your life assuming people are going to try to offend you at any moment, you’ll always feel right eventually.

Post # 13
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369 posts
Helper bee

I got an ‘are you pregnant?’ by one of my FI’s uncles at Thanksgiving the other day. We had told them we’re looking at a Fall/Winter 2018 wedding. His response was to ask if I was pregnant. How these two correlate I have no clue. It seems that in my FI’s family the reason people get married is because the woman is knocked up. I guess they don’t know that my Fiance and I don’t think the same way as them.

FWIW: we’re waiting because we want to be able to save up for a [modest] wedding while still taking care of other financial matters at the same time.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2018

That woman sounds like an absolute lunatic! Poor you being trapped in a manicure with her lol.

I’m (happily & confidently) introverted and I’m finding the barrage of questions from people overwhelming and irritating – I’ve only been engaged three weeks!

The fiance didn’t get down on one knee to propose (which is fine by me – it was perfect for us!) and his brother won’t let it go – like, your first fiance left you mate, so crawling around on the floor is clearly not the key to everlasting bliss.

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