Post # 62
@bouncybee: This person is NOT NORMAL. A sane, happy person wouldn’t even have these thoughts. Honestly for crazy people like this, I personally have to write a gratitude list and reframe my thoughts around them, brining it bake to basics whIle trying to find compassion for their issues:
Grateful for a job
Grateful for the ability to speak kindly and politely to others, grateful to be able to show respect aNd common courtesy, to have manners and the core character traits I think get taken for granted. Grateful for the ability to seek a solution rather than stoop to her level.
Its times like this which test our character, reframe your view into an understanding that she is not well. Try and find compassion. Doing so will take the power from the negative feelings she brings. I know it’s hard.
Also, as others mentioned, do your part and not engage. Cut her off, and consider telling Hr your situation so it’s documented.
Post # 63
If I were you, I would make sure to keep my replies to her very polite, and don’t let her see that she’s gotten to you. That way you rob her of the pleasure of a reaction. Learn the power of polite sarcasm – keep it so sweet that she can’t by rights be offended, but you’ll know what the true meaning is.
“We’ll I suppose big diamonds, what was yours again, 1/2 a carat, well big diamonds can be nice, but I love having a ring that’s a little more original. And hey, if its good enough for a princess, I’m sure it’s good enough for me. The important thing is that me and Fiance are so much in love – he’s sooooo wonderful, treats me like a queen etc. I guess if I was shallow I might value a piece of rock over our relationship, but I’m not like that”
Keep it in the sweetest tone of voice possible and if she tries to take offence, deny it
“Why no, I didn’t mean anything about your ring, why its perfectly lovely”
Of course this is stooping to her level to some extent. Perhaps a better option is to rise above. If she makes a nasty comment then just reply with “Well I love it and that’s all that matters” and either change the subject or walk away
I don’t think H R would be interested – it would come off as silly bickering rather than legitimate bullying.