- 6 years ago
Here is the dilemma… In June SO and I had planned to go up to my step-dad and mum’s cottage for the weekend along with another couple. We chose this weekend as my step-siblings had requested the long-weekend the following weekend. We were there 2 weeks ago and my parents said to leave our stuff in the room we were in and the sheets on the bed for when we come up again on the 24th. The other couple cancelled last week but none the less we are excited to get out of the city for a few days.
Yesterday my step-sister decided her, her husband, their 2 kids under 7, my step-brother, his wife and their 6 weeks old baby were going to come up. (Now just for background there is 3 rooms in the cottage and and extra bedroom built outside, it looks like a very fancy shed with 2 bunk beds, it isn’t gross, it is very nice, like a mini house). My mum was pissed off they all invited themselves without warning as the 4 of us were looking forward to a relaxing weekend together. These people do not discipline their so they are very badly behaved and rude. On top of that my step-siblings treat my mum and I like slaves and we clean up after them, they never offer to help, drink all our beer and never replace it, use all the gas in the boat and not offer to put any in.. you get the picture.
This morning I get a facebook message for step-sisters husband demanding very rudely SO and I vacate our room as their children need it. I replied saying we had planned this months ago, the guest house was available for all 4 of them to share together and that I didn’t appreciate being bossed around like a child (they are 30, we are both 25). He came back and said the guest house wasn’t good enough for his precious children and they need to be by a bathroom (they are both male, 4 and 7, im sorry but boys can pee outside no problem) and to sum it up he didn’t even ask, just told us we were not welcome to sleep in that room. I replied saying he is a bully and I will not give in to his last minute demands and to deal with it. He in turn demanded an apology as i was name calling (last time i check if you try to intimidate someone into doing your bidding that is being a bully). I ignored that message and have not responded.
My mum is trying to tell them to stick to going next weekend as they had those plans all summer and are not welcome this weekend but they aren’t taking the hint. SO thinks we should just get there before them and stick to our room as originally planned as giving in to bully demands isn’t something we are okay with. Any other time we would be happy to sleep in the guesthouse, but as this family bullies EVERYONE in our family I felt someone needed to take a stand and not let them have their way.
So Bee’s ideally they will not show up, if they do though I am unsure on how to handle the situation, I do not want to ruin everyone’s weekend but I do not appreciate being bossed around like this. Any advice at all on how to handle them if they show up would be appreciated, I have never had to deal with such uncompromising people before and I’m unsure how to deal.