Post # 1
Would it be rude to not do flowers for the family and only do bouquets and boutonnieres for the bridal party? No mothers/grandmothers corsages or dad/grandpa boutonnieres or anyone else in the family. We are having a casual wedding and it just seems like an extra expense that doesn’t serve a real purpose but is it rude not to. Corsages especially seem outdated to me, like 1960’s prom.
Post # 3
Depends on your family. I can see some families being okay with it, but others freaking out because they aren’t being recognized with a corsage. I’d throw the idea out there and see how they react 🙂
Post # 4
I personally don’t like the style of corsages or boutonnieres because like you said it reminds me of prom. I don’t think it’s rude at all, but maybe you should tell the other women that they won’t be receiving any ahead of time so they are prewarned.
Post # 5
It is not at all rude – many weddings I’ve been to have not done this and it certainly hasn’t come across as ‘cheap’ or rude. I say do what you want!
Post # 6
I don’t think its rude and I agree about corsages being outdated. Believe me at my prom that was the big fight between me and my boyfriend because I wanted nothing to do with a corsage. However, the people wearing them moms/grandmas etc might think they are special. So maybe ask how they would feel about i.
Post # 7
I brought this up to my dad when I was freaking out about our budget. His head almost exploded and said he would be very upset if we did this. So yeah, I’d ask your family and the grooms family before you do this 🙂
Post # 8
I’m planning on skipping the corsages (still need to run it by FMIL) because I really hate the look of corsages. I’m hoping to gift both moms some sort of jewelry/bracelet so it can double as their gift AND something to set them apart on the day of the wedding.
Post # 9
I don’t think anyone would even notice…except for the family members that would be wearing them (as a guest, I wouldn’t even notice probably). I would for sure talk it over with your family though. My mother is VERY old fashioned and if she didn’t get a corsage to wear, she’d be deeply hurt and would probably never let me live it down. For my family, the expense would be worth not hurting her feelings. Just talk it over with them first and see what sort of reaction you get.
Post # 10
definitely ask your family! we’re doing corsages for fmil in law and dads only because my mom doesn’t want one, and my grandmother has bad allergies so she or my grandpa shouldn’t have flowers. i’m looking for something non-floral for them, though.
Post # 11
We’re not doing them. My grandparents are all deceased, I know my mom and dad won’t care. I know HIS dad and grandpa won’t care, I’ll leave it up to him to let him mom and grandma know. They might be miffed, but I sorta don’t care. She can get miffed over whatever she wants, I know she’ll get over it. I’m actually considering no flowers even for the BMs at this point.
Post # 12
I’d check with the family who would be wearing them. They might be really hurt to have that small recognition taken away from them. Plus – it’s not like this is a budget breaking, super expensive thing. Our corsages were about $12 and the boutonnieres were $5 or $6, I think.
Post # 13
We only bought flowers for wedding party, and our family was okay with it, especially since it saved us money.
Post # 14
I only did bouqets for the bridesmaids (with the extra flowers I made bouqets for all the mothers as well) I also made boutonnieres for the grandparents. we didn’t do boutonnieres for the groomsmen or Dads and they were all fine with it, since they were the only ones in tuxes besides the bridal party they felt they didn’t need them.
Post # 15
I agree with the PPs that say ask first. My FH grandmother was VERY hurt to not receive a corsage at the last cousin wedding. She was so upset that when we briefly considered not having flowers, my Future Mother-In-Law said that we could forgo flowers for anyone but the grandmothers. This was a BIG deal for her…pretty much the only thing she’s insisted on. Needless to say, we’re doing flowers for everyone…especially the grandmothers. 🙂
Hmm…my mom was also insistent on this as well. She wants flowers. lol
Post # 16
@LGenz jewlery is a great idea instead of corsages.
I guess I need to get up the guts to actually ask how everyone feels. I know how my dad would feel, he is uncomfotable in a suit anyway so I’m sure adding flowers wouldn’t help but I’m not sure about my in-law’s family.