(Closed) Rude? Flowers for Wedding Party and Not Family

posted 10 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Depends on your family. I can see some families being okay with it, but others freaking out because they aren’t being recognized with a corsage. I’d throw the idea out there and see how they react 🙂

Post # 4
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I personally don’t like the style of corsages or boutonnieres because like you said it reminds me of prom.  I don’t think it’s rude at all, but maybe you should tell the other women that they won’t be receiving any ahead of time so they are prewarned.

Post # 5
255 posts
Helper bee

It is not at all rude – many weddings I’ve been to have not done this and it certainly hasn’t come across as ‘cheap’ or rude. I say do what you want!

Post # 6
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think its rude and I agree about corsages being outdated. Believe me at my prom that was the big fight between me and my boyfriend because I wanted nothing to do with a corsage. However, the people wearing them moms/grandmas etc might think they are special. So maybe ask how they would feel about i.

Post # 7
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I brought this up to my dad when I was freaking out about our budget. His head almost exploded and said he would be very upset if we did this. So yeah, I’d ask your family and the grooms family before you do this 🙂

Post # 8
5842 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m planning on skipping the corsages (still need to run it by FMIL) because I really hate the look of corsages. I’m hoping to gift both moms some sort of jewelry/bracelet so it can double as their gift AND something to set them apart on the day of the wedding.

Post # 9
1842 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think anyone would even notice…except for the family members that would be wearing them (as a guest, I wouldn’t even notice probably).  I would for sure talk it over with your family though.  My mother is VERY old fashioned and if she didn’t get a corsage to wear, she’d be deeply hurt and would probably never let me live it down.  For my family, the expense would be worth not hurting her feelings.  Just talk it over with them first and see what sort of reaction you get.

Post # 10
4136 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

definitely ask your family! we’re doing corsages for fmil in law and dads only because my mom doesn’t want one, and my grandmother has bad allergies so she or my grandpa shouldn’t have flowers. i’m looking for something non-floral for them, though.

Post # 11
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re not doing them.  My grandparents are all deceased, I know my mom and dad won’t care.  I know HIS dad and grandpa won’t care, I’ll leave it up to him to let him mom and grandma know.  They might be miffed, but I sorta don’t care.  She can get miffed over whatever she wants, I know she’ll get over it.  I’m actually considering no flowers even for the BMs at this point.

Post # 12
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d check with the family who would be wearing them.  They might be really hurt to have that small recognition taken away from them.  Plus – it’s not like this is a budget breaking, super expensive thing.  Our corsages were about $12 and the boutonnieres were $5 or $6, I think.

Post # 13
539 posts
Busy bee

We only bought flowers for wedding party, and our family was okay with it, especially since it saved us money.

Post # 14
1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I only did bouqets for the bridesmaids (with the extra flowers I made bouqets for all the mothers as well) I also made boutonnieres for the grandparents. we didn’t do boutonnieres for the groomsmen or Dads and they were all fine with it, since they were the only ones in tuxes besides the bridal party they felt they didn’t need them.

Post # 15
1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree with the PPs that say ask first.  My FH grandmother was VERY hurt to not receive a corsage at the last cousin wedding.  She was so upset that when we briefly considered not having flowers, my Future Mother-In-Law said that we could forgo flowers for anyone but the grandmothers.   This was a BIG deal for her…pretty much the only thing she’s insisted on.  Needless to say, we’re doing flowers for everyone…especially the grandmothers.  🙂

Hmm…my mom was also insistent on this as well.  She wants flowers.  lol

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