(Closed) Rude for the Bride’s Sister to Throw a Bridal Shower?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

By all means – throw your sister a shower!

I think it’s ‘rude’ for the bride to ask her family to throw the shower, because it’s assumed the family is already doing a lot for the wedding.

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My sisters through a shower for me (and even had it at my parent’s house which is supposedly a no-no…but their house is bigger than everyone else’s).  I think it’s MORE than okay!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Technically you shouldn’t host the bridal shower but I know my family/friends would not be offended by a relative hosting the party. IF you are uncomfortable hosting the bridal shower you can offer to help the MOH/BMs throw it. I don’t know what other party you could host, some people have a bridesmaid luncheon but typically the bride hosts that to thank her girls.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i think the Maid/Matron of Honor is supposed to organize the shower? no? well my sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and her and my mother were talking about my shower on sunday…heck with tradition i say! 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Go for it! That’s an old tradition and no one cares who throws the shower. You love your sis, no one will say anything.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

It’s typically the Maid/Matron of Honor who throws the shower, and if that isn’t you, I would take to her first so as not to stop on any toes.  If it is, or if the Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t care, then to hell with tradition, it’s totally fine for you to do that for your sister!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s a very ancient tradition from before bridal showers were as elaborate as they are now (with registries, and usually more than just a jello mold and some punch involved like showers of yesteryear).  Definitely throw your sister a shower if you would like to!  I would ask the Maid/Matron of Honor if she has anything planned first though.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Throw her a shower! I don’t think it’s rude at all!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is very much a regional issue.

It is not done here- family of the bride does not throw showers. It is seen as a gift grab. Friends, colleagues, bridal party, groom’s family etc throw showers.

 But, if it is done where you live, go right ahead.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

julies1949, what if the bridal party is all sisters of the bride?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If my sisters didn’t throw my shower I don’t know who would have. Why would my aunt have a shower for me?

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@DeathByDesign:  It is considered rude for a family member to throw a shower because of the gifts involved (something about how its rude to ask for gifts on behalf of your own family), so any party you throw is fine as long as it’s not a gift giving occasion.  Just call it something else. 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@angela2011bride: Then they wouldn’t throw a shower here. I did say if it is done where you live, go right ahead. Here, the bridal party hosts the bachelorette party. Surely there must be a friend who could host the shower?

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I was just curious, where I live, it’s fine.  My Maid/Matron of Honor is my future sis in law, so she’s throwing mine, and that’s that.  If people get a bad taste, they can just not come.  🙂

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