Post # 1
When I was creating my guest list 9+ months ago I decided I had room to invite a few of the coworkers I am closest with. They were all really excited to be invited.
one of them is not only extremely cheap but also has no filter when he’s talking. He has told us all on numerous occasions he only spent $2500 on his wedding and got a free photographer.
Several months ago he started asking about hotel blocks. I told him there was one walking distance but when he found out that hotel did not provide breakfast he asked about the next closest. I told him it was a 5 min drive and did provide breakfast. He then proceeded to ask me if I was providing a shuttle so he didn’t have to worry about getting a DUI. Before I could even responded he said “oh no you’re too cheap you won’t provide one.” Seriously?
he has also been talking to the other coworkers going planning out their partying schedule and talking about how they need to decide how many shots to have at the reception. I haven’t told him yet I’m planning on only having beer and wine (partly because I cant afford adding liquor and I also don’t want people getting trashed at the reception!). I can’t wait to hear how cheap I am for that. I also spent a lot of time and energy planning I want to celebrate with the people I care about not watch then get completely trashed, it’s not a frat party.
I also recently send my invitations. the other day he said “oh yeah we got your invitation, my wife said your venue is kinda ghetto-y”. WTF seriously?!?!?! I wanted to be like, well if it isn’t good enough for you then you don’t have to come, but I held my tongue.
he is the only guest saying anything negative.
I’ve been so excited it’s all coming together and can’t wait for the day and this guy keeps putting a dark spot on my happiness.
Anyone else have similar issues?
Post # 2
Why are you inviting someone like that to your wedding?
Post # 3
Why in the hell are you inviting someone like that to your wedding? He obviously was like that, before you mailed him the invitation. If he attends, he will try to suck all the joy, out of your big day. Next time he says something exceptionally rude like that, just tell him that he’s welcome to not attend, since everything will be so inferior to his high standards.
Post # 4
The next time he says something rude, I would say that he also has a choice to decline the invitation. And smile. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. I’m sorry that happened to you.
Post # 5
I don’t know anymore. He isn’t always bad and is part of my core group at work. It would be rude to rescind an invitation so I guess I’m stuck. I just needed to write out my rant.
Post # 6
I know – nobody will agree with this but fuck him. What an unsupportive asshole – and his wife saying what she said? You do NOT need people like that there on your wedding day.
Enjoy your coupons to Denny’s – I’m sure that’s the only thing you’ll be getting as a gift from those two grifting losers.
Post # 7
Why are you close to/friends with someone you clearly dislike? His personality clearly hasn’t changed. Is it just the fact that his negativity is directed towards you instead of others that you now dislike him?
Post # 8
Have you actually invited him? Sent him the real paper invitation? If so, there is nothing really you can do. Just ignore his tasteless remarks, don’t engage.
If you haven’t sent the real invitation, don’t. If he asks, you can say, “from the things you said, I didn’t think you would want to come.” And say nothing more than that.
Post # 9
I’m really sorry you are going through this. I haven’t gone through anything like this directly because I haven’t sent out my invites yet, but I’m sure people will say something (I’m not inviting any co-workers and it’s a cake and punch -literally-reception). I’m the same way with the alcohol. My family has had family members with history of alchohol abuse and I don’t want to deal with it. I want my day to be relaxing.
So I’m sure I’ll get comments on that for being cheap and not having ‘real’ food or any alcohol. My grandma has already made a comment about the church I want because it’s Episopalian and not Catholic. I’m not religous so I really don’t care about that, I honestly picked the church I thought was prettiest. And my BIL’s gf has been the rudest she’s already called me stupid for getting legally married before our ceremony (even though we did it due to military). I deleted her because of it and she demanded I add her back. Nope. :p I’m not going to invite her. I’ve even had people be like “I better be invited” and I just have to laugh it off because they aren’t.
I’m sure other people have been in the same situation and can help more than me. But if I were you next time he says something I would remind him it’s an invite, not mandatory since you can’t uninvite him. And about the hotel, I’d be so mad! I’d tell him to just pick the first one and buy some pop tarts or something lol. I can’t believe he said some of that stuff to you! Does he say stuff like this normally?
Post # 10
Polite or not, I’d uninvite his ass. I’m not sure why you’d invite him in the first place. Maybe if you put him in his place a little, he wouldn’t be such a little bitch lol.
Post # 11
wow, what a jerk!!! I think you should steel yourself for future comments, and next time he says something just give him the long, cold, “did you really just say that?” stare, then walk away. Or a sweet but firm “if you’re unhappy with my venue/food/drink/whatever, please remember this isn’t a mandatory event and you don’t have to come.”
Post # 12
Why would you invite someone like that??? He’s not family you’re stuck with! One more inappropriate comment and Id just say “well geez Bob, I’d hate to disappoint you. How about you just stay home. I really don’t want you there anymore and it sounds like youre not going to care for it anyway.”
Post # 13
Why did you invite him to begin with????
Post # 14
If I were you I would have a tactful member of the core group explain to him that he has been hurting your feelings. He sounds like doesn’t get that its rude and he’s got social issues, but probably doesn’t WANT to be a d*%^
Post # 15
There’s no way that asshole would be at my wedding. I would uninvite him right now.