(Closed) Rude or am I overly polite?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Not rude. You might be overly polite but you also seem overly sensitive.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think she’s being rude just truthful

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think you’re reading too much into this..

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

LOL, the preview to your post says you haven’t seen your friend for 45 years since high school, so I was very curious about this much older, tech savvy Bee! 

Anyway, you were there and we weren’t.  It’s always possible that your friend came across as tactless and arrogant in real life. It’s the kind of thing that I’d ignore until evidence starts piling up that she’s socially clumsy or rude in other situations. 

In and of itself, it doesn’t sound as if there was anything offensive about what she said. Most people don’t take their apps very personally.  If she cut you off abruptly, mid sentence or something like that, that is rude regardless of  subject matter. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Eh I get what you’re saying.  You might be oversensitive, but it really depends on the tone.  If she said it in a condescending way, I’d get way you’d be a bit put off.  So I’m with you that the polite thing to say is that you’ll check it out later.  However, the best thing to do is to just let it go.  Maybe she didn’t mean to come off as condescending as she did or maybe she felt you were being a know-it-all and decided to stick up for herself.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Just because someone recommends something doesn’t mean I have to try it. What if someone tells me how wonderful cocaine is? I sure won’t be trying that. If I already had a similar app, I would say so. I don’t think that is offensive and I’m sure she didn’t mean to be rude.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Not rude imo.  She has something similar that she uses and is familar with… it’s a perfectly logiccal question imo.  Maybe it was a legit question and she wanted to know the differences and why she should use it when like she said, she has something that sounds like it does the same thing.  Even if she said it in a “know it all” way, I’d just take it as a she’s familar with hers and sees no reason to use something else to do the same thing.. not a ‘no, your app is stupid I dont want to try it’ way.

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