(Closed) Rude or Cute?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you put one of these at your wedding?
    Yes it cute and good idea : (7 votes)
    4 %
    No its rude to ask guest : (134 votes)
    84 %
    Maybe... : (18 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 32
    9816 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Rude. Gah, sorry I just loathe stuff like this.

    Post # 33
    2085 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

    I can accept that honeymoon registries are becoming more common and less taboo. Putting money on display doesn’t seem so awesome.

    The picture reminds me of the “help raise money for the little league team” jars at the dry cleaners.

    Post # 34
    10713 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t see a problem with it and I don’t think its rude. They don’t have to contribute if they don’t want to but its there for those who do want to. More than half our guests didn’t give us a gift though so I just see ANY gift / registry or honeymoon fund as EXACTLY THE SAME THING. There if they WANT to use it, but not required.

    Post # 35
    10283 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Absolutely, positively rude. If I saw one of these at a wedding, I’d probably suffer from a self induced seizure caused by rolling my eyes with such force. Please don’t do it. Just… don’t. 

    Post # 36
    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    In Mexico there’s a tradition where after the 1st dance, guests an dance with the bride and groom, but they have to attach money on the dress/tuxido with a needle for they honeymoon.

    I dont want people putting needles in my dress or his tuxedo, so… i guess i’ll put a jar or bowl instead

    Post # 37
    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I voted rude. I think it’s offputting and shows a lack of class. I also don’t think it’s appropriate for adults to be asking guests for tips at their wedding. If they want to give you money, they will.

    Post # 38
    814 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Just from the thread title I knew this would be something rude.. I’d be so put off by this, I’d probably resent giving them anything at all. How presumptuous and a certain word starting with ‘t’.

    Post # 40
    69 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @leannamari3: I think it probably depends on if this sort of thing is common where you are (region, culture, whatever). That being said, I have never seen this before so I would personally be taken aback by it – I wouldn’t say I would necessarily find it rude, but it may come across as gift-grabby since most people have already brought a gift/card to the wedding and this would appear to be a secondary solicitation for money.  I do understand though that in some places this is totally common and so guests familiar with it may not think anything of it, so I think this is a case of knowing your guests/audience.

    Post # 42
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would not be mad or anything if someone had one, no ones forcing you to contribute. But its up to you. If its all of your close family and friends, Im sure they would be glad to help out. Its almost like a dollar dance.

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