- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
A friend and I are both getting married next year. Her wedding is in April and mine is in May. She is getting married at a church in town and I am having a destination wedding. My fiance has a large family (I do not) and large group of friends and wants a reception when we get back for guests that were unable to attend. My time, energy, and budget are focused on our beach wedding. While we will have to do some planning for the reception, I do not plan on spending a great deal on this. My friend and I work at the same place where you can have a wedding and/or reception and have both chosen to have our receptions here. I do not want to spend a great deal of money (and by working here I will be saving thousands) on this portion of our celebration but it is extremely important to my fiance and I am going to make it beautiful.
My friend took me to dinner to explain to me that she has had feelings festering towards us because of this choice we have made and said we are breaking wedding etiquette and she would prefer we not get married here. She said it has hurt her feelings and really upset her and she thinks it’ll be a game of me one-up-ing her.
These thoughts never entered my mind. My fiance wants a huge celebration so to me it’s as if we’re throwing a huge party weeks after we have already gotten married and over a month after her reception has taken place.
My fiance and three other very close people to me said to go ahead and keep planning at our place of work because:
A. it’s within our budget
B. it’s what we want and this day is about us
Rude or not?