Post # 17
@TattedNYBride: @SashaUSARu: Why do you guys think she is only listing one set of parents??! She is listing both sets of parents lol. *scratches head*
@riakd: I think the first one is fine, it doesn’t sound look like they are being “shafted” in my opinion. If you’re really worried though I would do as PP said, send them a draft and ask them what they think.
Post # 18
Even though we did not pay for our wedding, other than a few smallparts, we wrote
Bride & Groom
together with their parents
Bride’s Parents Names
Groom’s Parents Names
Just because it worked better for us 🙂
Post # 19
@TattedNYBride: I so agree.
Our invitations used the wording the OP listed as the second option. My parents funded the whole thing but didn’t care that we included his parents on the invitation. If your parents might, I’d ask first but I’m incline to list them both.
Post # 20
@riakd: it’s unclear from your $ breakdown who is hosting the wedding, which determines the wording. If its your parents go with the first one. If its you & your parents, go with “bride & groom, together with their families” the first is traditional because traditionally the bride’s parents hosted.
Post # 21
@funkybutton: because she says so in her original post..she is currently using virsion one that includes her parents only….and she is asking if she should change it to the second virsion that includes both sets of parents..
Post # 22
Etiquettewise the people at the top are the hosts. Do the groom’s parents know as much about the wedding, venue, vendors, etc as the bride’s, to the point that any vendors or guests who had questions would get the most accurate answer from them? If not, the appropriate place is at the bottom.
Post # 23
@SashaUSARu: haha no, both versions include BOTH sets of parents! You need to read it again more carefully. 🙂 The first one, his parents names are listed at the bottom.
son of Groom’s mom and Groom’s dad”
Post # 24
@Epicpooka: ooops..just saw it….have to be more attentive next time 🙂
still think both got to be in the beginning..:)
Post # 25
Who is hosting? THOSE are the names that are listed on the invitation. People treat invitations like playbills anymore and they aren’t.
Whomever is hosting the wedding (or any event) issues the invitation. The program is where all parents are listed regardless of who is hosting. Hosting and paying are not the same thing.
Post # 26
We had basically the same financial breakdown as you, and we did the “son of” line on our invitations. I think my inlaws were thankful to be included at all, honestly. They didn’t expect their names on there.
Post # 27
We just started with Together with their parents but didn’t name any of them. I like your first version. Have you asked his parents about it? Or rather show them the proof and say “This is what the invitations look like, what do you think?” without particularly steering them towards the wording. Then, if they bring up the wording you know it’s a real issue, and if they don’t then it’s all good.
Post # 28
Whoever is considered host is at the tOp.
Post # 29
@riakd: We are going to do it the first way that you said. I’ve seen a lot of invitations recently written like that.
Post # 30
I really think it should be both or neither. You shouldnt leave out the grooms family in the hosting part even if they were paying 2%… I think thats really rude. Another option is what we did… “Together with their parents,” and didnt list either of their names. Everyone knows who your parents are and neither side gets offended then. Good luck
Post # 31
@riakd: Maybe we are a bit non-traditional but we did:
“Together with their familes
joyfully invite you to share
in the celebration of their marriage”
That way we didn’t have to worry about hurting either family.