Post # 47
I think your first proposed option is fine. We did “Bride X & Groom Y, together with their parents, Mr. & Mrs. X and Mr. & Mrs. Y, invite you to celebrate their wedding…”. Technically my parents are ‘hosting’ (paying for the majority), and they wanted their names on the invite, but since the ceremony is at FI’s house they agreed to the above.
Post # 48
@essiesstyle: I did this too…it was easier that way, since the wedding has pretty much been a team effort between us, FI’s parents, and my mom. Most of the wedding invites I’ve gotten have been addressed this way, but maybe I just haven’t gone to one that’s formal enough? *shrug*
Post # 49
I picked the first option, both because your parents are hosting and because it just seems to flow better. All parents are listed on the invite, so I don’t think there should be any reason for hurt feelings.
Post # 50
We used together with their parents, but both are contributing pretty equally.
Post # 51
@riakd: I think they’re both really wordy, but what do I know? lol
For what it’s worth, we used:
Together with their parents
blah blah blah
Post # 52
“at the marriage” is, in fact, proper wording and traditional form. Look it up on Crane’s, Emily Post, or any standard invitation guide.
Post # 53
I personally think it’s rude to leave off the other parents because they can’t pay the same portion of costs.
I know my mom would be incredibily offended that she wasn’t on the invite if his parents were (despite contribution)
Post # 54
@vmec: Read the OP again…she’s including both sets of parents in both options.
Post # 55
Thank you all for the feedback!!!!
Although, yes, some of you do seem to be confused … I’m sorry if I wasn’t clear. BOTH SETS OF PARENTS WILL HAVE THEIR NAMES ON THE INVITES. I’m just trying to figure out the manner in which to present those names — if both names should be listed at the top/as the hosts, or if it’s more appropriate to list the bride’s parents as the hosts, then the bride and groom, and THEN the groom’s parents.
Anyhow, I asked my fiance about all of this (unfortunately he just started a new job with CRAZY hours and we had to get the invites done at the same time, so I was flying solo at the invite shoppe), and he was totally fine with Option 1 — his parents’ names last. He said he thought that was the tradition and that his parents would be thrilled to see their names on an invite, regardless of where on the paper they’re located.
We didn’t bother asking his parents because, honestly, they are so sweet and non-confrontational that they would NEVER be honest anyway. Asking them would do nothing but make them feel uncomfortable. Every wedding-related question I ask is met with, “Whatever you and your folks think……”
So, since so many of you said that Option 1 seemd okay and has been done many times before, I’m making my life (and the life of the invite designer making my proofs) easier by sticking with that.
I’ll let you know how it goes once the invites are mailed out!
Thanks again, Bees. You rock. <3