Rude or not: Invitation wording – will fiance's parents be hurt?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How should I place parents' names on invites???
    Leave it as is (bride's parents up top, groom's at very bottom) : (87 votes)
    74 %
    Change it to option no. 2 (bride's parents up top immediately followed by groom's) : (30 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 47
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    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think your first proposed option is fine.  We did “Bride X & Groom Y, together with their parents, Mr. & Mrs. X and Mr. & Mrs. Y, invite you to celebrate their wedding…”.  Technically my parents are ‘hosting’ (paying for the majority), and they wanted their names on the invite, but since the ceremony is at FI’s house they agreed to the above.

    Post # 48
    Member
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @essiesstyle:  I did this too…it was easier that way, since the wedding has pretty much been a team effort between us, FI’s parents, and my mom.  Most of the wedding invites I’ve gotten have been addressed this way, but maybe I just haven’t gone to one that’s formal enough? *shrug*

    Post # 49
    Member
    2211 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I picked the first option, both because your parents are hosting and because it just seems to flow better.  All parents are listed on the invite, so I don’t think there should be any reason for hurt feelings.

    Post # 50
    Member
    718 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We used together with their parents, but both are contributing pretty equally.

    Post # 51
    Member
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @riakd:  I think they’re both really wordy, but what do I know? lol

    For what it’s worth, we used:

    Together with their parents

    Bride

    and

    Groom

    blah blah blah

    Post # 53
    Member
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I personally think it’s rude to leave off the other parents because they can’t pay the same portion of costs.

    I know my mom would be incredibily offended that she wasn’t on the invite if his parents were (despite contribution)

    Post # 54
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    2211 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @vmec:  Read the OP again…she’s including both sets of parents in both options.

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