(Closed) Rude People

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

They exist everywhere, and they are just jealous!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Everybody wants to see the ring, for sure! I don’t think it’s that they aren’t focusing on the meaning of it (maybe in this case?). But i know my friends are very excited about their engagement rings so I make a fuss over it and how excited i am for them and their face lights up. But right after, “omg i’m so excited for you” and squeals and stuff, my friends demanded i give them my left hand. i always happily obliged

But to not congratulate you or say anything, well, awkward.

I’m totally picturing this girl screaming, flying across the room, waving her arms, hair flying, wanting to see your ring though =]

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I dont think she was being rude.  She was probably just excited for you!  I know when I first see someone who got engaged I always want to see their ring too! 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I don’t think people think they’re being rude, they’re trying to show excitment.  But it was definately a comment or the hand grab that really would make me tense up. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee

It’s not just you. Tons of people place ridiculous amounts of focus on the ring as though it is what makes you engaged and keeps you together when it is not. Many even go so far as to say that you are not engaged if you don’t have one, which is absolute BS. The commitment between you is what makes the engagement, nothing more, nothing less. The ring is just an outward symbol that doesn’t have a single magical power at all, contrary to popular belief. While some people should mind their own business, they don’t and they don’t care that they are being rude, if they have any clue at all that they are. Either ignore them or have a snappy comeback ready.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think it depends, if it’s a close friend who doesn’t congratulate you, and is only focused on the ring, that’s rude.  But if it’s someone you aren’t really close with, they’re probably just being nosy.  Maybe I’m biased because one of my close friends did that to me and I don’t remember getting a congrats so I was a little bitter.  As soon as I showed up on her doorstep after getting engaged, she grabbed my hand and seriously started comparing her e-ring to mine.  She held her ring up next to mine and was examining them from all angles and I was like umm can I come in?! haha

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That really bothered me when I first got engaged too, especially when it came from a certain coworker.  There is a lot of emphasis put on that ring, so it’s not personal.  It’s probably their way of showing interest.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Congratulations by the way! lol

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve actually gotten, “How many carats is it?”, which I find to be very rude.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Don’t sweat it 🙂

People want to see the ring, it’s a nice piece of jewelry that is associated with engagements.  I don’t think anyone thinks it says anything about your relationship or is the most important part of your relatinship/engagement.  

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I wouldn’t worry about it. She was probably really excited for you, or she would have shown zero interest. She probably just communicated it in an odd way lol

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Most people are really rude! My “bff” who got engaged about a year before me but was having a long engagement- her first words to me were ‘when is your wedding date?’ Obviously all she cared about was making sure hers was before mine..

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