(Closed) Rude people

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Tomato22:  people are stupid.  you’re better off to stop trying to be nice.  

Post # 4
1282 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Tomato22:  Rude and immature. Maybe that explains the dry wedding though, if she is only 19 . . .

Post # 5
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Tomato22:  I’d reply “I’m glad you understood 🙂 If only more time was given for me to make adjustments to my schedule. Congrats!”

She should have just left it at “I’m sorry you can’t witness this occasion with us.” Is she going to reply to everyone who declines?

Post # 6
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

TBH, I can see her side. They did drive 5 hours to see you, where you need to drive only half of the time. IDK, I think if my invitation was declined right away I would be upset too. That means you didn’t even think about attending. If you send a message to her and explain why you can’t go before declining it, I think she would be much more understanding. 


Post # 7
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Tomato22:  I understand why she is upset- she did make the long trip for your wedding. BUT, I think people who plan their weddings so that they fall on holidays are asking for people to decline invitations. 

Post # 9
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Tomato22:  Meh. I’d be happy to get a fast RSVP. Maybe she likes you more than you like her? I think we’ve all had that friend or relative who sort of assumes more of a relationship with you than there actually is. 

Anyhoo, don’t feel bad about it. New years eve/Christmas is a busy time for most people, and anyone who plans their wedding for that time should expect a higher decline rate. Besides, every single invitee gets to decide if they will come or not. Not the bride. I would roll my eyes hard, scoff, gossip about it to my work friends and then let it go.

Post # 10
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

This is really sad 🙁 slearly she cares more about you than you care about her.

Post # 13
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Seriously ???

She sends out a Wedding Invite that you receive 27 DAYS BEFORE THE WEDDING on a STAT HOLIDAY …

WHO does that ???

And she’s annoyed that you decline, have other plans ???

Talk about being self absorbed.

Cannot also get over the ridiculous reply that she sent back…

RUDE indeed.

Like others have said, I’d chalk it up to Immaturity and move on.

One of the unique things that happen when people marry, is we naturally move on to another phase in our life… and sometimes that also goes along with creating a new social circle…

Meeting New Friends as a Couple, Keeping Old Ones to share together, and REEVALUATING / Dropping others from our “Single” Life.

Nothing wrong with it… infact in times such as this one… it can be a blessing in disguise.

Hope this helps,


Post # 14
75 posts
Worker bee

@hrtchoco:  +1

Also, why does it matter if she has a dry wedding? Lots of people do regardless of their age. 

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