(Closed) Rude people!! Vent//Long

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@TXbrideFW: Seriously, I would have your Fiance call your brother and tell him you will not accomidate the 2yo nor the people HE invited unless he pays for his friends. This is your wedding, not a free for all. Do not cave in. Your brother needs to have a talk with him asap. Let know know the hotel will block his child from coming it.

Post # 4
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Don’t let someone else dictate what you are doing for your wedding. Lay down the law…make sure your Fiance tells him exactly what’s happening, and it’s not up for discussion. 

Post # 5
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wait, so if guests don’t stay at your hotel they have to pay $100??? That’s crazy! I had many guests not stay the night and drive home that night (DH is from a town 3 hours away and most of the guests were from there).

Post # 9
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

When it comes to Destination Wedding I feel like the people you invite can do what they want on their own time. So I don’t see a problem with your Future Brother-In-Law renting the house and other people joining them.

However, I see a HUGE problem with him inviting those other people to your wedding WTF. I would say no. You can’t stop them from going to Mexico but you can prevent them from coming to your wedding.

Definitely put your foot down on that one!

Post # 10
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913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@FMM: I agree completely! I don’t blame the guy for wanting to make a vacation out of it. I would too. Bringing uninvited guests to your wedding is unacceptable but bringing them, and children, to Mexico to hang out other than at wedding-related events is fine IMO.

Post # 11
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@FMM: I agree.

I’d be pissed that he invited people to my wedding without my consent and wouldn’t allow that but…if he wants to stay elsewhere thats his right.

Post # 14
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I would have your Fiance say this (or something almost exactly the same).

“You’re certainly welcome to stay wherever you like while you’re on vacation. But I just want to make sure you understand that the only 10 [or whatever the actual number is] people will be allowed to enter the resort for the wedding if they are not staying there. If you have 20 guests stay at that house with you 10 won’t be able to come to the wedding. I’ll leave it up to you all to decide who can come and who can’t.

Also, be sure to find a reputable nanny early for your daughter since no one under 18 is allowed on the grounds.”

This doesn’t just say “no don’t” which a contrarion like him will see as a challenge, it sets forth the consequences of going through with his plan and puts the responsibilities on his shoulders rather than yours.

It also doesn’t use vague/ill-defined numbers – 80% doesn’t mean anything until you know the total population, firm numbers are much more concrete.

Post # 16
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@TXbrideFW: 🙂 you’re welcome. I’m happy it was useful. Let us know how it turns out.

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