Post # 1
So my guy friend and I have been friends for years and years. One of my oldest friends. I’m getting married soon and he and his wife are gonna be at the wedding. We have been such a huge part of each others lives for so long (never dated…but growing up always been some sort of sexual tension there). Obviously, I have found my true love and the person I want to be with. Well….his wife is a total b*tch to me. We have all been hanging out a while, but in the past few months she’s just been really mean to me, but always wants to go do stuff. If we are one-on-one with me and her she’s a blast, but if other people are around she talks down to me and tells me to shut-up, etc. I miss hanging with them, but I’m so tired of her always putting me down. She even missed our engagement party last weekend(he showed up) and I haven’t heard from her. If I want a relationship with him I know I will need one with her as well. what to do? Help bees!
Post # 3
haha She probably thinks that something happened with you two and is just a bit uncomfortable. Because let’s face it, even if some guy told me he never slept or dated someone I wouldn’t believe him. Have you talked to him about it yet? I think that’s the first step.
Post # 4
@KaitlinHudson: It’s weird though that this just started happening. We have all been hanging out about 2 yrs, but recently she started doing this. I don’t get it also why she always invites me to do stuff and is so cool on-on-one, but is so mean to me when others are around.
Post # 5
Ugh. That is so weird and unnecessary. They’re married. You’re getting married. I’m not sure why she’s so insecure and threatened by you, but that’s totally the case. Is this something you can bring up with your friend? Has he noticed her behavior?
Post # 6
@caric813: My guess on the suddenness (is that a word?), is because he probably told her that he used to have a crush on your or something. If you guys have always been friendly, I’m guessing things will slip back into place as soon as she doesn’t feel as awkward around you anymore. That’s just a theory, though!
I would talk to your friend, though, and see what’s happened.
Post # 7
@Gemstone: No, he hasn’t noticed she’s been doing this to me. I may bring it up soon to him. I just don’t know:(
Post # 8
i would talk to her about it directly, not him. it sounds like if she’s insecure, having the topic come up through him will just make it worse. it sounds like you’re friends with her on your own now, since you said you spend time with her one-on-one, so next time you do just bring it up. i bet she doesn’t realize she’s doing it, so talking about it might help. talking to him will probably just make it a bigger problem. just tell her you’ve noticed her talking down to you lately or whatever and that it hurts your feelings because you value her (and his, but i maybe wouldn’t mention his) friendship
Post # 9
@finnaroo: I agree. Talk to her, not him. If you bring it up to him first, it’ll probably reinforce any insecurities she’s already having and could make things work.