(Closed) TOUGH SITUATION:(

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

haha She probably thinks that something happened with you two and is just a bit uncomfortable. Because let’s face it, even if some guy told me he never slept or dated someone I wouldn’t believe him. Have you talked to him about it yet? I think that’s the first step. 

Post # 5
Hostess
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Ugh. That is so weird and unnecessary. They’re married. You’re getting married. I’m not sure why she’s so insecure and threatened by you, but that’s totally the case. Is this something you can bring up with your friend? Has he noticed her behavior?

Post # 6
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@caric813: My guess on the suddenness (is that a word?), is because he probably told her that he used to have a crush on your or something. If you guys have always been friendly, I’m guessing things will slip back into place as soon as she doesn’t feel as awkward around you anymore. That’s just a theory, though!

I would talk to your friend, though, and see what’s happened.

Post # 8
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2465 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i would talk to her about it directly, not him. it sounds like if she’s insecure, having the topic come up through him will just make it worse. it sounds like you’re friends with her on your own now, since you said you spend time with her one-on-one, so next time you do just bring it up. i bet she doesn’t realize she’s doing it, so talking about it might help. talking to him will probably just make it a bigger problem. just tell her you’ve noticed her talking down to you lately or whatever and that it hurts your feelings because you value her (and his, but i maybe wouldn’t mention his) friendship

Post # 9
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769 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@finnaroo: I agree.  Talk to her, not him.  If you bring it up to him first, it’ll probably reinforce any insecurities she’s already having and could make things work.

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