(Closed) Rude RSVP responses

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
10 posts
  • Wedding: February 2012

Cut them off!  If people didn’t reply to your RSVP then they are not coming so who cares about running after them?  Serioulsy they are rude for adding a friend and not RSVPing on time especially on something that’s a formal occasion….so I’d say they are not welcome anymore….remove them from your invite.


Post # 4
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

arghghhhh I am so dreading stuff like that!  Mailing out the invites tomorrow.  Man oh man, if someone tries to pull something like that, I am so laying the law down.  Tell them they CANNOT do that!!

Post # 7
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrs. LuvsDisneyland: LOL, sorry, I can’t help but to laugh at your statement _”Good grief, I had no idea people were this bloody stupid!

Post # 8
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think after reading the bee for the last few months, i may have to make an addition to my invitations…

“Anyone who has RSVPed by such and such date will not be on the final guest list. Those who are not on the final guest list may be escorted off the premises if they attend.”

Strict… but fair.

Post # 9
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yup, people suck.  We’re still waiting on 56 people to reply, our deadline is Friday.  Thankfully so far, we’ve not had anyone try to substitute guests in.  And surprisingly so far not one RSVP without a name on it. 

Post # 10
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think this is all normal, which sucks, but true.  I know before I got married, I was a late RSVP’er too. I think you don’t realize how important it is until it’s you.

Post # 11
5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

We are still waiting on ~75 RSVPs due TOMORROW-it’s email or phone so there is no excuse. The best is my FI’s stupid cousin, whose family is well-known for never RSVP’ing to events – sent me her bridal shower invite (6 days before my wedding) asking for an RSVP, and has yet to do so for my wedding.

Post # 12
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

About the whole guest subbing thing – I think that sometimes people really don’t realize that that wouldn’t be ok. I remember a wedding I went to years ago, with an ex-boyfriend, where the ex’s brother could not attend, so his mother told him to bring me (it was the wedding of a cousin). We certainly didn’t think we were doing anything wrong, in terms of etiquette, but after immersing myself in my own wedding planning, I realize what a faux pas it was! So, give them the benefit of the doubt that they might not know that guest subbing isn’t cool.

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