- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Ok, in a short story. Me & my husband have been married for 8 years already. About 2 years a go we went through a bit of a rough patch, we both turned to the people that we could trust the most. Family. One of his sisters particularly. She was very helpful and listened & gave advice as needed she wanted us to stay together as much as we wanted to stay together. In the end we worked things out and are glad to be where we are at now.
We are now getting “married” in our church, bc before it was a civil marriage not recongnized by our church. We now want that sacrament for ourselves, but mainly because our oldest son will be making his communion next year and I really want to be able to share that with him. Being when i was young getting married, I didnt think “Oh this will hold me back” from doing things with my children.
Anyway I have been to a couple of lunch dates with my sister n law and the first comment she made that I thought was rude was… My mother in law is glad we are getting married in the church finally b/c we need God in our marriage. To which my sister in law said “oh you know why they are doing it right?” WTH! and then she told her b/c we were having problems before?
When she told me that, I just told her that isnt really why? TO BE HONEST I REALLY AM ONLY DOING IT B/C I REALLY WANT TO SHARE THAT PART OF MY SONS LIFE (Communion) WITH HIM. Me and my husband should have got married in the church the first time bc it is a scrament, but we just got tired of both families saying this and that about what to do so we just went to Justice of the Peace and got married.
Then, this past weekend we went to my mother in laws and she knew we had a prep class that day so she asked how it was going? I said its going… b/c our priest is always like digging to much into our business we feel or making comments about us “giving” to the church..etc. Anyway I was like yea good, and my husband was like only 1 more, yay!! and she said “you gotta work through your problems” and I said “we dont just talk about problems” that is was a series of questions that we had to anwser and now have to just review. Nothing about problems??? and her husband was like “yeah” but she didnt say anything else.
How or What should I do in response to these types of comments? I feel like she is kinda using what we told her in confidence against us. I dont want to be rude, but I dont want to be a push over either.