Rude sonographers?! 20 week Anatomy Scan

posted 3 weeks ago in Pregnancy
Post # 31
634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Cutesy things for a party isn’t their job, but if you’re asking them to drop one coin into an envelope and discard the other – i don’t see why not. 

Also – an ultrasound tech did not typically go to medical school. 

Post # 32
98 posts
Worker bee

When I scheduled my anatomy scan, the scheduler on the phone said if I prefer to not know the gender and want them to give it to me in a sealed envelope, they can do that but I need to let them know beforehand. I did NIPT so I already know the gender, but I thought it was nice that they offered that as an option. Guess it depends on where you’re going and what their typical standards are. 

Post # 33
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

AstonMartin :  They are still medical professionals and have had to have some type of schooling and training.  

Post # 34
1686 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t totally agree with the pile on here. Sonographers are human, not robots. They likely were just having a bad day or your enthusiasm rubbed them the wrong way.

You’re in their room for 30 min to an hour, so conversation will happen. Ours asked up front if we wanted to know the gender so she could plan accordingly during the scan.

During our session, our sonographer actually shared with us her miscarriage story after I told her I had one previously during her initial queations. TBH, I wasn’t totally in the mood for reliving that memory at that time, but I could see how in her job she must have had a really hard time seeing babies every day when she’s struggling to have one herself. 

Post # 35
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

I haven’t gotten to this point myself yet but I always assumed that in order to do a gender reveal, people would have the doctor or sonographer write it down and put the information in an envelope and then the mother would give the envelope to someone else who would take care of the reveal. For example, you could give the envelope to a trusted friend or family member and have then take the next step (whether that’s ordering a cake with pink or blue on the inside or whatever other type of reveal you would like). I wouldn’t ask the medical team do anything other than 1) not tell me and 2) write it down. 

Post # 36
5124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

They don’t want to write anything down or assist in placing a certain color into a bag etc because scans can be wrong and their opinion on the gender is not 100% correct a lot of the time. An ultrasound tech isnt qualified to tell you with certainty the gender of your baby and I’m not surprised they didn’t want to put themselves in a bad situation should their answer be wrong later on.

Have a friend come with you to do the work.

Post # 37
2088 posts
Buzzing bee

I just had my 20 week anatomy scan and the tech couldn’t see the gender.  I knew from a blood test but she just said the baby’s legs were crossed and determining gender wasn’t the point of the ultrasound.  It would have been disappointing if we didn’t already know!  But it seemed clear she was generally irritated with people wanting a gender from the anatomy scan.

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