(Closed) Rude things people say to you about getting married

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My boss once said to me, in a condescening way, “I don’t kno what you’re thinking when you did this!  I don’t know, maybe you’re too distracted because you’re getting married.”

He convinient forgets that the stuff I have to work with are from his unorganized clients and unorganized self.  HMPH!

Post # 4
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

urgh!! rude!

Post # 5
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Bless his pointed little head.  All I can say is when you are in severe pain you can get a bit self centered. 

So anyway – WOW you are getting married in October!  I personally think Fall weddings are super gorgeous.  My son’s birthday is in October and I  love halloween.  So congratulation on an October 7th wedding!  I think October is a perfect time to get married.  My parents were married in October!!!

This should undo all his negative mojo!!!

Post # 6
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Run while you can!

Don’t do it!

It just ends badly!

Why wouldn’t you just want to live together!?


ugh people say the rudest things. My relatives are all happily married, I wish more people put a good spin on marriage because we are just psyched about it!

Post # 7
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had someone do the exact same thing to me at work. Some Eeyore type of a sad sack asked when my wedding was and when I told him December 30th, he told me that was the day he married his third wife. And that they were bitterly divorced. Um, thanks a lot [email protected]&hole! Lol

Post # 8
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

A friend of a friend belittled me for “making them wear matching dresses” repeatedly.  It was so offensive to me that it made me not like her anymore…I can’t get over it.  But I figure since she didn’t know me all that well she must have forgotten that she laid down the same insult every time I bumped into her and trotted it out again.

Post # 10
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

i was standing outside a bridal shop the other day admiring the dress in the window and a random stranger said ‘ don’t do it duck, it’s not worth run while you still can’ i just laughed and gave him a silly look, his mate then came back towards me i thought here we go he said’ ignore him he’s drunk’ 

at 12 noon oh dear, most people just think it’s right. i got the date thing my mum told my aunty that i was getting married an dec 16th and apparently she said tell her don’t do it thats the date me and my first husband got married… hmmm and …actually mum it’s the 15th so don’t be a day late lol 

Post # 11
677 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I had someone tell me they couldnt imagine getting married because they had so much they wanted to accomplish in life before they tied themselves down.

I was like, what makes you think I dont have a ton of goals and things to accomplish? Why would my husband prevent me from reaching them? We already have a huge list of different countries and cities we want to visit together, a good partner helps you achieve your dreams.

I feel like that person must not have realized they were implying people who get married dont do anything interesting after that or have other goals.

Other people say, “Dont do it!” or “live your life first! you are too young!” hello, I am 25 and I dont exactly plan on staying at home barefoot and pregnant now that I am married.

People have some strange ideas about marriage, i.e. marriage = the end of your life/goals/freedom.

Post # 12
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


How about this for a good spin:

My 94 year old grandfather recently gave a speech regarding the fact that my brother is getting married. He said that he and my grandmother were married for over 60 years before she died. He talked about how much he misses her and what a great marriage it was. He told us that marriage is all about being together and enjoying eachother and that it’s a wonderful thing to be getting married. 

I hope this helps!

Post # 13
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I usually get negative comments about how short my engagement. Ive been told that a long engagement makes you realize whether or not you are doing the right thing.

Ive gotten:

“Are you sure?”   <this one always gets me because obviously i am if i said yes!

“You should have dated longer”

“1 in 2 marriages end in divorce”

“You should live together at least a year beforehand”

“Youre seriously getting married??!?!?”

Its silly, Ive started to let it roll off my shoulders. Ive gotten rude comments on everything from the ring, the dress, the budget, etc. At this point, so close to the big day, I could care less!

@Annabelle86: I HATE HATE HATE when people tell me “I would get married now too but I have so much I want to do in my life” 


Post # 14
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My boss asked me the other day what my name would be after I got married. I told him and his response was, “well that’s very vanilla”.

Yes, my Fiance has a very, very common name, but I’m honored to be joining his family. I will carry his name proudly and I do not appreciate comments like that! So rude!

Post # 15
5667 posts
Bee Keeper

My FI’s best friend had a few things to say. I knew he would, he hates the premise of marriage. Once he said his piece he was done though and has been supportive ever since. I had a bit of resistance from my parents but I think it was mainly because I’m their oldest.

Luckily, the rest of our friends and coworkers (including a few recent divorcees) are very supportive.

Post # 16
4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

A (then) boss of mine, upon hearing of my engagement, basically told me to get out while I still can.

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