Post # 1
Is it rude to invite some co-workers but not others. I work with only 12 other people, I have no problem inviting 10 of them but two of my co-workers are really stuck up and judgemental … their poo doesn’t stink kinda people … but I know if I invite all my co-workers except them it will cause problems at work bc they are so close to my boss (almost a favoritism thing there) … what do I do?
Post # 3
I would invite them all. I wouldn’t want to just leave out 1 or 2 people, they would feel singled-out.
I have a small department as well (6 of us in my department) and I’m just inviting all of them to keep the peace.
Post # 4
Threadjack-I have a similar question on this issue. I’m the newest attorney at a mid-size firm. There are 17 other attorneys and a number of support staff. My plan at this point is to invite all attorneys with spouses but not support staff. There are a couple of legal assistants I really like but I want to draw clear lines about who I invite. Thoughts?
Post # 5
The rule on co-workers I’m trying to follow is to invite my department, plus those who I have spent time with outside of work. I have no idea what the proper etiquette is though.
Post # 6
When it comes to non-family members, I think you should invite who you want, and only them. I know that’s not a popular belief, though. I am thinking of it this way – would you ask this person over for dinner? Would you say yes if they invited you out for a drink or to their home? Have you ever done any of those things with this person? If so, consider inviting them. If not, cross them off your list and move on.
Post # 7
I think that would be my attitude if I were further into my career. But I’m still in my first year out of lawschooll and would hate to offend an attorney I work with. I don’t necessarily think my wedding should be about my career, but to an extent, I feel like I should protect my career by inviting all. Argh!
Post # 8
@sarahrun: Aaah, that’s tough. Are you certain they’d be offended if they weren’t invited?