(Closed) Rude to send wedding announcements to those not invited?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Wedding announcements (while not as common today as they once were) are still a totally acceptable way of informing people you’re hitched.

I would not mention that the ceremony was small/family only.  You don’t need to make excuses for not inviting everyone you know.  I think keeping it simple is better.

If you are changing your address or your name- you could include that info in the announcement.

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Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

We eloped and we sent our announcements while we were on our honeymoon. It was a nice way to let everybody know that we were married and then they knew that we wouldn’t be having our wedding in March like we had planned. We did get gifts from close friends and extended family, but we would have gotten those anyway I think.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We’ll be sending out announcements right after the wedding.  It’s a compromise for the Future Mother-In-Law.  She’s of the opinion that you send invites to everyone "just to let them know you’re getting married."  I was horrified since we were already fighting to get the guest list down to 200. 

I don’t think it will look gift grabby in the least.  Just consider it a personal newspaper announcement.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I sent out wedding announcements after our wedding too. I created photocards on Shutterfly so that people could see some wedding photos. And then we simply put the wedding announcement on the card with our wedding website so people could take a look at more photos and see some other details of the wedding such as the wedding party and the venue. I also made mini business cards on Moo.com with our Shutterfly share site with ALL of the wedding photos we could get from our guests and the photographers, as well as our new address, phone number, and my new name! As long as you don’t put your registry info in your announcement (just like you wouldn’t put it on your invites), no one will see it as you just grubbing for gifts. People will appreciate your informing them of your marriage.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We’re sending out announcements to everyone that we couldn’t invite to the wedding.  They’ll also double as invitations to the hometown reception my mom is throwing a couple months after the wedding.  I think we’ll use one of wedding pictures and say something like "Mr. and Mrs. Spring got hitched!  Join us for a celebration of their marriage at Parents of Spring’s house on …"  We did our save the dates on postcards.com, and they turned out so well I think we’ll use them again. 

Anyway, I’m not sure the point of announcements if it’s not to let people know about the wedding who weren’t invited.  You don’t send them out to people who WERE invited, right?  Since they were there they already know about it? 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Wedding Announcements are totally acceptable.  In fact it’s proper ettiquette to send them to those who weren’t invited!  And I don’t think anyone will see it as being gift grabby.  It’s an announcement, not a registry card, LOL!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think they are fine!!

However, I must say I was put off when one of my dad’s old friends  (that he hasn’t seen in like a decade) daughter sent our family an announcement that simply stated she is getting married in like a week and then listed 3 places that they are registered to…THAT looked like a gift grab bag! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re planning a small wedding this fall but my folks will be hosting an informal open house (for family and friends who weren’t invited and couldn’t travel to our out-of-state wedding) in 2010. So, I think our wedding announcements will double as a Save the Date for the picnic/BBQ/"reception"/open house party.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

If I were you, I would send them out to everyone in a newsletter style! It would be casual and cool. You could even say that you look forward to an intimate wedding.

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