(Closed) Rude vendors!

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Post # 3
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My fiance and I are still not sure about what exactly we want in a reception venue, so we’ve been looking at a lot of different styles of places. We visited a lovely mansion/estate type place, and the coordinator there asked us what other venues we’d looked at so far. We’d seen a hotel ballroom a few hours earlier that day, and when I told her that, she said–

“Oh! Well that’s an entirely different kind of place!” in a rather snarky way. And we had just met her five minutes before! Later my fiance brought up that it didn’t seem like she really cared about whether we had our reception there or not, and I agreed. You don’t want vendors to sell you too hard, true, but since then we’ve talked to some other people that seemed truly excited to work with us.

The estate was beautiful, but in the end we decided it wasn’t worth the price if it meant we’d be working with somebody who was looking down on us for bothering to consider a hotel and didn’t make us feel welcome.

So don’t fret, you’re not alone! I hope all of your other vendor interactions are better moving forward!

Post # 5
1323 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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thelibrarylady:  Back when we weere considering 2016, I asked a venue about their availablity in March 2016 and if they could send me pricing. She emailed back saying that they didn’t have their 2016 pricing figured out yet and weren’t booking at this point. This was in August of 2015, they don’t book 7 months out?! So I wrote back asking if she could send me the pricing for 2015 so I could see if it is in line with our budget. She replies very rudely,

“I already told you that we don’t have pricing for 2016 yet and it doesn’t make sense to send you pricing for this year because it could be VERY DIFFERENT. You can wait until we have pricing for 2016 next month. It isn’t that far in the grand scheme of things.”


Obviously, I never followed up asking for pricing because she was so hideously rude. Also, who doesn’t book 7 months out? This was a red flag to me that they don’t have their shit together.



Post # 7
3080 posts
Sugar bee

I talked to a photographer who repeatedly e-mailed me after I sent him a “Thanks, but we went in another direction” e-mail. Actually, he was so arrogoant and egotistical over the phone, we wouldn’t have gone with him if he was free.

The same thing happened with an arrogant/egotistical bandleader and a talent representative, from a company that had a number of bands. I don’t see how they get any business.

I also had two officiants tell me that we probably weren’t the “right fit,” because they wanted an astronomical price to write the ceremony themselves.

Post # 9
3080 posts
Sugar bee

The photographer? I don’t remember exactly, but 1 e-mail was a detailed list about what to look for in a photographer. One expressed dissapointment and hoping I’d reconsider. He oozed narcissim. It was a semi-destination wedding – 1.5 hours away – and he insisted on having an engagement session so he could get to know the couple (my daughter and SIL). They were not going to drive a 3-hour round trip for something they didn’t want or need.

The talent agent for the band agency was so furious, that when he e-mailed me back he didn’t use capitals or punctuation. He concluded “it was all about the money,” insinuating we couldn’t afford it and I was wasting his time. Really, really rude. When we booked through another band agency, I was talking about him, without mentioning the agency or his name, and they knew exactly who I was talking about. Like vendors think they can get bookings by browbeating and insulting people?

Post # 10
303 posts
Helper bee

I started following a couple of bakeries on Facebook so I could see what kinds of cakes they were making.  I decided against working with one of them because I felt like her posts were so unprofessional.  Just tons of passive-aggressive stuff like “If you borrow one of my cake stands for your wedding, you need to return it within 3 days so I have it for the next wedding.”  Um, pretty sure you could have just called the person instead of trying to shame them with a Facebook post that they might not even see.  And she also went on rants about how people couldn’t expect to call her to get a wedding cake for the upcoming weekend because she makes custom cakes and needs more notice than that.  I get why she would want people to understand that, but there’s a right way and a wrong way to say things.  

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