(Closed) Rude wedding related FB post

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
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58 posts
Worker bee

The original FB message may be a little graceless. But that pales into insignificance compared to taking a message intended for friends and posting it on a public bulletin board for complete strangers to comment on.

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Post # 47
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263 posts
Helper bee

Her message was a little tacky.

You taking it from Facebook to WB for public castigation by perfect strangers is rude. 

See the difference? She was thoughtless, you were intentionally cruel.

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Post # 48
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263 posts
Helper bee

Her message was a little tacky.

You taking it from Facebook to WB for public castigation by perfect strangers is rude. 

See the difference? She was thoughtless, you were intentionally cruel.

Post # 49
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323 posts
Helper bee

I really don’t see anything rude about posting details about your wedding on facebook, some people need to take the etiquette stick out their a**. So say I have 300 friends on my facebook(old colleagues, old college friends, friends of friends etc)they all expect an invite to my wedding & will be offended if I post details on my page? I don’t think so…that would be really strange if someone I haven’t seen in 10 years takes offence to me posting a status about my upcoming wedding, I love seeing people’s wedding updates, I don’t find it tacky at all just because I’m not invited, people are far too sensitive.

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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hollyberry4:  posts like that make me cringe.

Post # 51
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Definitely rude.  I’d be offended if I saw that and wasn’t invited, and I’d be uncomfortable if I saw it and was invited.  It basically tells her guests that she didn’t trust them to know how to read the invitation/who was invited, and also points out to others that they weren’t invited at all.

Post # 52
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224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I went to a wedding earlier this year and the bride did that. However, she took it one step further and actually tagged people in it. It actually pissed me off, and I didn’t want to send mine back after that. I just couldn’t believe it.

Post # 53
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This is really not that rude.. It is tacky though. Its in poor taste to broadcast details about a party to an audience where everyone is not invited.

Not to mention, if they’re invited to the wedding.. She should be able to phone/ email/ text them this information. 

 

Post # 54
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525 posts
Busy bee

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MrsPPP:  Relax. It’s all anonymous.

Post # 55
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408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Hanover Grande Ballroom

i think its rude because people who are not invited can see it.

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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hollyberry4:  Holy crap, that’s kind of awful.  I’ve tried to keep as little wedding related stuff of facebook as possible b/c obviously, we couldn’t invite everyone!  

What we are going to do is actually create an event page, and THAT is where I’d put a “Hey guys, we really need those RSVP’s”-type post.  The page is moreso for guests to interact with each other and ask general questions that everyone can reply to.  Our wedding day is not a one stop shop and a bit spread out, so I want people to be able to make carpool arrangements or ask what’s in the area.  Also, it’ll be a place for people to post pics after the wedding 🙂     

Post # 57
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Helper bee

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GreenBayBee:  It’s not anonymous if the girl who wrote it sees it. Which, considering she’s planning a wedding and this is a website devoted to weddings, is entirely possible. Second, that’s hardly the point. Anonymity does not excuse poor behavior.

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Post # 58
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Honey Beekeeper

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LudaRae: People can say screw etiquette all they like, but these  kind of things can and do make a negative impression, as this thread shows.  You may not think so now, but one day, one of those FB acquaintances may  be in a position to help you or your spouse. Why anyone would want to risk offending others or burn any potential bridges when it’s so easy not to is beyond me. 

It is not unusual to  hear people say that online manners and presentation have influenced them when asked to help someone network.  People are just not going to go out of their way for someone that may be a poor reflection on a recommendation. Most times the person has no idea about opportunities missed.

Consideration for the feelings of others will never go out of style.  

 

Post # 59
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Honey Beekeeper

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MrsPPP:   That’s a stretch. For all you know the OP paraphrased or changed minor details. I’ve seen similar posts, including in real life as well as here on WB. It’s not a unique or identifying situation at all. 

 

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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MrsPPP:  Completely agree, and glad you said it.  If you didn’t, I was.

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