(Closed) Rude/Judgemental RSVP from FMIL friendsposted 4 years ago in Family
- 4 years ago
Yes what a good idea, the worst table! And if/when you greet them at the wedding reception , something along the lines of ” oh so you are the people who sent that joky RSVP , husband and I laughed and laughed didn’t we darling ? Such fun. ”
I would of course be as furious as OP is and want to send a communication to that effect, but as pp’s have said, no point , it would only lead to more impertinent judgemental stuff
And, I never heard of replying to an RSVP before , I kind of thought receiving it was the end of the correspondence .
- 4 years ago
Thanks everyone for your replies, I did come on between posting and now to read them all, but was allowing myself time to cool. Firstly, to those who are saying that this has no effect on my life, it is my life. To you, it’s merely something you’re reading on a forum, but this is something I actually have to deal with, perhaps before you reply, sit and think how you would really react if it were happening to you.
Now to those of you who were actually helpful, thank you. As I stated in my OP, I told Fiance to reply to their RSVP; to answer the question as to why we are replying to RSVPs, it’s not only to acknowledge that we received it, but also asking for any dietary requirements, allergies, vege/vegan etc.. Fiance did so this morning and thus far, we haven’t heard back. Thankfully!
To answer when the RSVP email was sent, it was sent at 7:17am, so unless they were having an irish coffee, (hey, it’s the holidays, who could blame them?) I doubt alcohol would have been a factor.
The relationship dynamic between Future Mother-In-Law and I isn’t super close, in fact she stated to Fiance mid last year that she thought I’d act “more like a daughter” to her since he proposed. (I don’t even know what that means). This cause a huge fight between Fiance and I btw, where I had to explain that it wasn’t fair for her to put any expectations on me, I’m naturally a private person and that she has a daughter, his sister, and I didn’t want to cause conflict within their family, as their relationship is strained enough at times.
Future Mother-In-Law is a very controlling person. She hated that Fiance moved out of home in his early 20’s and became his own person and it’s brought up pretty much everytime we go over. I remember when the inlaws were looking for a new house to buy last year, they were down-sizing, she told Fiance they’d have a room set up for him “just in case”. I’m not sure whether that was implying that she expected we’d lose the house or that we’d break up or what, but yeh at the time we lived 20-30 minute drive away so it’s not like he’d/we’d need to stay the night.
Thanks again for the replies, I’ll keep you posted if any other drama happens, but for right now, I’m hopeful it’s done.
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