Post # 17
A coworker said to me: “Wow, you got huge over the weekend!”
Also had a sales person say to me when I had a size small sweater on and it was sort of tight, “Oh, is that the large?”…No, lady, it’s the small. And I will now not be buying any of the items in my hands. Thanks.
Post # 18
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Well, I wasn’t pregnant, but it’s still somewhat related…
When I was getting certified for dcuba diving, the last day was with a different instructor, and as soon as he walked into the room he looked at me and said “I wont certify you, you’re an idiot” And walked out (the only people around were me & my husband at this point). I was so taken aback by his comment I just stood there stunned for a minute before following him and demanding why.
Again, rudely, when I asked him why he wouldn’t certify me, he replied dismissively “Because you’re pregnant”. Well, I WASN’T pregnant, and told him as much, and he had to spend the next 20 minutes apologizing– had he been a little nicer and it was just a simple mistake, I would have forgiven him immediately, but I was just so mad about the way he said it I made him apologize several times before I accepted his apology.
I also had a friend who was very thin before she got pregnant, and didn’t gain much weight outside her belly until about the last 3 weeks of pregnancy (and even then it wasn’t much) She actually had a coworker tell her she was “killing her baby by doing that” When she asked what “that” was, the woman replied “not eating anything so you wont get fat!” Well, my friend happens to be married to a nutritionist and was eating a VERY healthy diet for her and her baby, she was really upset that “people” thought she wasn’t eating enough on purpose, and that they thought she believed being skinny was more important than her child’s heath.
Post # 19
I’m 30 and have been married 2+ years, so you’d think that would insulate me from all the “was it planned?” commentary, but so many people have asked me that. In fact, it wasn’t planned, but how is that anybody’s business? I think it’s so rude and intrusive.
Also, when I was out shopping at 14 weeks, a saleslady at Neiman Marcus said “wow, you’re SO BIG for 14 weeks; you’re gonna get huge!” Thanks, lady. Just because a woman is pregnant does not give you license to comment on her size/weight, so keep it to yourself.
Also, not rude so much as awkward: “what are you hoping for?” re: gender. I never ask people that, and cannot get over how many times I’ve been asked. In fact I am hoping for a girl (though of course my priority #1 is a healthy baby, yadda yadda), but I never feel comfortable telling people that IRL because if it’s a boy I don’t want them wondering to themselves “oooh, is she disappointed?”
Post # 20
I always get the “Was it planned?” . None of anyone’s business.
This morning I was wearing a baby skeleton teeshirt and the cashier at DD asked if I was pg. When I told her I was, she said “Ah, that explains why your face is so puffy and broken out.” Thanks lady!
Post # 21
What is your response when people ask you if it was planned? I’ve gotten this one from at least three people so far and it makes me want to scream!!! So far I’ve been nice but I can’t see that lasting much longer!
Post # 22
@TravelingBrit: Stop it! I can’t believe she said that-that’s what gave it away? Not the shirt??
Post # 23
People are SO crazy, I am 12 weeks, and haven’t told many people, but with all these examples, I am getting scard to! LOL
Post # 24
My favorite so far has been, “They are obviously feeding her well” from a woman listening in on my conversation with a coworker about the food provided at a meeting I go to. The next time I saw this woman she said, “wow, you haven’t had that baby yet?”
You could say she isn’t my favorite person right now….
Post # 25
I’ve had a lot of people ask me if I am pregnant/expecting and while I am, I am only 21 weeks and not huge. My husband keeps telling me I need to start messing with them so they learn their lesson not to ask people that. I mean, what if I wasn’t?! People have no filters.
Post # 26
I CONSTANTLY get…”Are you sure it’s not twins??!!” UGH, wtf? I mean, what can I say but, yes, I’m sure it’s not twins, I’m just fat.
Or, “wow, you get bigger EVERY DAY!!” Thanks.
Post # 27
I had an old man tell me “We all know what you did to get that way.” Creepy. Yes, I had sex with my husband and I don’t feel bad about it, oh the shame.
Post # 28
@MrsFuzzyFace: Hahaha, that is SO creepy but also just made me laugh out loud, alone in my cubicle like a loon.
So far I’ve just laughed and said yes. I do sort of want to say something else, maybe let them know that they’re being rude, but confrontation stresses me out, so… I hope my laugh is conveying what I think of that question. WOW.
My husband and I were just talking yesterday about, depending on how #1 goes, how soon after we’d like to try getting pregnant again. We’ll probably start trying within the first year, so I know for sure that people will ask next time if it was planned too. FUN!
So many of these examples are hilarious. People are idiots, plain and simple. It’s just a lot more apparent when you’re pregnant.
Post # 29
i’ve gotten “wow you’ve really spread out wide instead of out!” this came from a stranger who i had never seen before. weird.
also, the barista at the starbucks i go to everyday keeps making comments about how i’ve been “pregnant forever” and asking if i’m ever going to have the baby. i know she’s not meaning to be rude, but you’re basically calling me giant. annoying.
Post # 30
I have had several people just assume we got married because I was pregnant. Um, no. I got pregnant on our honeymoon for starters and we spent well over a year planning the wedding. Common sense people!
Post # 31
@ellebeerob: I just say “no, it was a surprise, but we couldn’t be happier!” and then change the subject. Or “why do you ask?” if it’s not somebody I feel comfortable sharing personal things with.
If it was planned, I’d probably tell people we were trying for a puppy.