Post # 1
What are some of the rudest comments you have received? I would love it if all people in our lives were happy for us after getting engaged but that’s not always the case.
For me, it was my friend’s mother saying “You’re going to wonder why you rushed”.
That same “friend” said, “My friend is in the same situation as you. You know? Wanting her boyfriend to propose and he won’t.” She isn’t really my friend anymore.
Also some bridal sales associates told me to do cardio because weights were making me expand since the last time they saw me. -__-
This topic was modified 5 years ago by kikilo.
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
They said whaaaaaaaaaaaat???????
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
The first thing out of my boss’s mouth when I announced my engagement was, “I hope you don’t plan on getting pregnant anytime soon.”
Post # 4
Yes ma’am. They told me lifting weights were making me expand and I should stick to cardio. Low’s Bridal in Arkansas.
I can’t be mad. They didn’t look educated in that field.
Post # 5
The rudest comment was when I told my brother that I was engaged. His response was, “Cool, I’m planning on proposing over Christmas” and proceeded to talk about himself. Really bro?! Tell me congratulations and at least pretend to think about someone other than yourself for 5 minutes! I love him to death, but dang!
Post # 6
kikilo: we’re having a civil ceremony (not sure if it’s the same in the US but here it’s basically identical to a church wedding except you can’t have anything religious) and someone asked ‘why aren’t you having a proper wedding? ‘
Post # 7
I got a lot of “finally!” which, while I understand are supposed to mean well, it doesn’t always come off that way. it’s actually quite bitchy, and mean.
Post # 8
a friend of mine had gotten engaged about two weeks prior – her fiancé wrote that they ‘won’t hold it against’ us for getting engaged. we had congratulated them sincerely and that comment hurt because it was so ridiculous and unnecessarily rude.
then – great friends of ours got engaged two weeks after us! and we were THRILLED for them and wouldn’t have dreamed of saying something like that to them.
Post # 9
cpick: Wow…are you from a religious area? That is crazy! A wedding is still a wedding.
Post # 10
My friend kept joking about ‘marrying him was worth it to live in the us’ and ‘green cards’, but I’m not angry she just split with her first ever boyfriend so I’m sure she’s not feeling so good and can’t help her comment.
Post # 11
kikilo: I don’t live in a particularly religious area. I had no idea how to reply. I think I just said something about neither of us being religious but kinda wish I’d just told her it is a proper wedding, I feel like explaining sort of made it sound like I agree it’s not proper but it’s our only option
Post # 12
My sister (who Is much older than I and been with her bf for close to 20 years), said “Not everyone should get married”. I replied with ” Depends on who the other person is” (referring to her bf vs mine). Oh, jealousy lol.
Post # 13
kikilo: My Darling Husband friends are generally very immature but when we annouced to them our engagement at my then-finace’s birthday I thought even for them this was pretty rude. They were all trying to one-up each other for the dumbest thing to say. One asked “So how did you propose to him?” another “So how far along are you then?” “What did you have to do to get him to say yes?”…For the record I was not pregnant and before he asked I have never even brought up marriage so the proposal was a complete surprise to me. I was kinda upset though that my then-FI didn’t stand up for me in front of his freinds.
Post # 14
I don’t know if everyone would consider this rude but (I think) due to my Fiance and I’s age, is when people ask if is my ring is real or how much it cost. And I find it highly irritating (not these are like acquaintances not people either of us are super close too) because it’s like I feel as though they’re passing judgement due to our age but it’s like if you knew us well enough you would know we are both very successful in our fields and both make quite a bit of money (him so more than me but I don’t do too shabby!)
And then the real thing irritates me because my center stone is only 0.77ct! It’s not like I have some rediculous gaudy huge ring like Kim K or Angalina Jolie (love her hate her e-ring!)
The last rude thing that happened to me with my engagement was why weren’t we getting married in a church and “who does that” blah blah (this was a creepy customer at my old job) and my response was Because we are athiest, I think that is frowned upon in churches.
Post # 15
I didn’t announce my engagement yet but I said something about some new blue shoes I got ‘would be perfect for my wedding’ and a close friend told me “oh? you don’t seem like the marrying type”, so then I didn’t tell him anything. And I didn’t discuss my relationship status with him ever again.