Post # 61
dobedoop: I’m not a violent person, but I’d like to be alone in a room with that woman for a little bit. Lol, what an idiot! Reminds me of a coworker I had in my last job: had an opinion on everything, always negative, and created an incredibly toxic environment. Sorry you have to put up with that!
Post # 62
Beyond the typical “there’s still time for kids” comments I’ve gotten (I’m 38), I received an odd remark from a very good friend of mine. I’m an introvert, and when I made a joke about being an introverted bride who doesn’t like being the center of attention, she sniggered and said, “Yeah, you’re going to be miserable your entire wedding day!” Um, thanks for the encouragement. 🙂
Post # 63
This was after we decided on having a backyard wedding. We owned a house already and the idea suited us perfectly. We also chose to have a longer engagement (22 months). When I told this to a family member, they responded with “But with that amount of time, you’d be able to find and afford a real venue”. Thanks for the vote of confidence.
Post # 64
This is maybe not the rudest, but I certainly didn’t appreciate my Mother-In-Law telling me that it was “silly” of me to register anywhere bc we didn’t need anything. Um, thanks? And then regarding us going on a honeymoon, she said “you just went on a vacation!”… not sure why a trip to visit my sister means that I don’t deserve a honeymoon?
Post # 65
Sandy0607: when I called my SIL (my DH’s sister) to announce our engagement, she kept saying “we didn’t think it was ever gonna happen.” She must have said it at least 20 times
Post # 66
We got a lot of ‘finally’ and ‘it’s about time’ (granted we’d been together 8.5 years when we got engaged)
Then we got ‘better hurry up with those babies’, ‘hope you don’t wait to long on those babies’, ‘hope Darling Husband doesn’t take as long deciding about babies’ and other such ridiculous comments.
Post # 67
nanabana: we were together for years so I got a lot if “it’s about time!” and I agree it is just bitchy
Post # 68
We’ve been engaged for about 6 weeks. As I don’t have my ring yet, people don’t know unless I tell them, so only 2 people at work know.
The rudest, more awkward, was at a get together for a long-time friends birthday. We didn’t know anyone else but there were about 15+ people. She and her boyfriend knew, and both congratulated us. I get along really well with him, despite only really being around him a couple of times, but have come to realise he is a bit socially awkward. So, after we had sat down he turned and said ” I have to ask, but are you pregnant”. It was really uncomfortable because then all these strangers were looking at me, and while I have been friends with his gf for a very long time, I don’t feel he knows me anywhere near well enough to ask such a thing. I know he was just trying to be funny, but I did call him out on being rude. He also made comment that “he hasn’t even put a ring on it” (FI proposed with a temp ring and it doesn’t fit me, and I’m not rushing into getting one until I’m sure).
The only other was when I rang my grandmother to tell her personally. She said “oh, yes, we’ll I thought that would be on the cards”. She’s always been like that though.
Everyone else has been awesome 🙂
Post # 69
Tphan: we’re not the type to call, heck I texted my parents… But were also not doing a traditional wedding. We’re having a wedding for two. getting married on the beach with just us a justice of peace and a photographer. We don’t like crowds and avoid phones lol. So it’s not that shocking
Post # 70
kikilo: Two rudest comments:
1) The day it happened I had to work, so I am going around tellingeveryone. I tell one of my supervisors and she gives me a blank stare and goes “Why?”. And then promptly tells me ” You know you really shouldn’t be wearing that at work” (technically working in health care I shouldn’t have been but it JUST happened).
2) (different job) A customer that came into my restaurant told m that I shouldn’t wear my ring to work, because I’d probably get more tips otherwise. Uuuuhhhhmmmmm I don’t care!!!
Post # 71
kikilo: how much weight do you want to lose before the wedding?
um. i’ll sit on you, rude!
Post # 72
No one has really been rude about our engagement. One of my brothers did say something that I thought was funny, but it didn’t offend me, I just laughed. Fiance and I had dinner with my parents and he asked their permission to marry me. After we left the restaurant, I called all of my siblings to tell them and my youngest brother (who is 8 years older than me BTW) said “Yeah, I pretty much figured it was something like that when Mom said you guys were going to dinner.”
“Something like that”?? I’m pretty sure the other “something” he was suspecting was that maybe I was pregnant LOL!
Post # 73
I’ve had couple rude comments.
Future Sister-In-Law told my Fiance “If she really loved you she would return the ring you got her for a smaller diamond”
FBIL’s wife ( I guess FSIL?) ” Fiance should have invested that money in getting a nicer car or at least fixing a few things on his car” ” I don’t understand why he spent that kind of money on her when she probably wont take care of it” ” I never even see her wear rings” (all these things were told to my FMIL)
At first I was a little butt hurt because I get along with them VERY well. I’ve NEVER had issues with them and to hear them talking trash bummed me out. I’m over it though. Someone always has some snarky remark. They’ll keep coming as the wedding planning comes along.
Post # 74
We got some ‘finally’ type comments from my husbands side of the family. Its like our relationship finally became valid and they’ve all been waiting on baited breath for something that really didn’t matter to us up until that point.
Another rude comment we got was from a friend, we explained how we got engaged and that we picked the ring together and she immediately looked at her boyfriend and said “I don’t want that”. Um ok. Cool.
Post # 75
KC-2722: lol WOW!! The nerve of some people! That’s insane.