Post # 91
My mom never wanted an engagment ring, plus my parents got engaged right out of college, she was 21. So she just wears her wedding ring, a very thick band of yellow gold. When I got engaged, at 33, she was incredulous that we would spend the money on an engagement ring at all, never mind a DIAMOND ring. We visited my parents 3 times the summer after we got engaged, never once did she said congratulations. But now she is all into the wedding planning…. sheesh!
Post # 92
My “best friend” (who is no longer my friend) made the rudest set of comments! She seemed so insanely jealous of our engagement (which I had been kind of going crazy over, but that’s just me…I am a stresser) and said some things along the lines of “be happy with your expected surprise” and “guess real friends don’t tell friends they got engaged”. She just was completely negative about the whole thing. I had messaged her the night of, and she didn’t get it. She made me feel terrible the day after we got engaged. I had to get up and over it and cut her out of my life. I don’t miss her one bit.
Post # 93
kmark2688: I would be sooooooooooooooo anoyed with her.
Rudest thing wasn’t really said to my face, probably because she knew it was rude and didn’t have the guts to say it loudly.
But a large group of friends/acqaintances were discussing different things at the table. Me and another girl got engaged, and I know the rude girl knows 2 other people that were recently engaged as well. Everyone was discussing wedding planning and such and someone told me she said under her breath “Yea, everyone’s getting engaged but lets see how many actually get married.” Then rolled her eyes .
If talk of engagments was upseting her she could have just left the room lol.
Post # 94
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
kikilo: My sister told me “well, it’s not really an engagement ring, so it’s not like you’re really engaged!”
Still not sure what’s so “not real” about my ring, but whatever, I’m now happily married and TTC #1, so I don’t really care what her opinion of my ring is!
Post # 95
BusyBriBee: Oh, I was super annoyed!!! I already think she’s bat shit crazy and I told Fiance we should probably just stop talking to her… she’s not been a great friend to either of us and it’s so obvious she has this weird crush on him still. Even though he’s never reciprocated any of the same feelings.
In your case it sounds like that girl felt insecure and inferior with all the wedding talk going on around her when she had nothing to contribute. In order to make herself feel better she had to insert a nasty comment. Women that act like that really grind my gears!
Post # 96
kmark2688: Wow. She could give my psycho friend a run for her money. She ruined my surprise bridal shower by telling me about it.
Post # 97
kikilo: Wow, what a dick move. What is it with engagements and weddings? They make crazy people act even crazier. The nuts surely do come out when people are seemingly happy.
Post # 98
kmark2688: With her, I think it’s because she’s introduced me to a man she really loved who had sex with her and then dumped her. She feels insecure.
I’m surprised at all the men who make inappropriate but rude comments.
Post # 99
the rudest comment came from my mother. My mother ddoesn’t like my fiancé because he isn’t jewish. She said word for word “you’ve made your choice. You are no longer my daughter. Goodbye. “
So yeah. Thanks mom, right. Lol
Post # 100
Aw I am sure you looked great in it! That’s so terrible of them. I’m sorry that happened to you. I would have probably started crying right then and there.
Post # 101
My Fiance isn’t really close with his mom side. There is SO MUCH DRAMA with them! Honestly it’s like being in High School again with them sometimes.
Because of that we stay away/most his aunts do not acknowledge me even after I try to talk to them. Before we announced it on FB we did tell those who were important and deserve to be told personally. Well his aunts didn’t make the cut for the fact they ignore me.
Well one one aunt didn’t even congratulate us but made it about her and how she felt it was so rude and hurtful that she had to read a status about it rather than call her. Then another one of his family members, a druggie cousin made our announcement on his mom’s FB about her. Saying that she wants to be back in with the family and hates that she hasn’t met me yet.
I think those are by far the rudest things we encountered when we first got engaged.
I’m so glad I’m not alone when it comes to people’s reactions and their lack of manners or sense.
Post # 102
A longtime now ex-friend who I just had enough of her nastiness right before my wedding said “ummm WHAT is this a joke?” on Facebook. yupp. Real nice. Then on the ring picture just wrote “ugh”. This was after 6 years of my now husband and I being together, 3 years of owning a house together and a dog later. Don’t tell me you were ::surprised:: when I knew the real reason was because shortly before that she had given her now fiance (boyfriend at the time) an ultimatum after about 8 months together and she was PISSED that it happened for me first. She continued to just be flat out rude to me even after they got engaged and I just had enough of her.
Post # 103
When I had called my mom (who lives abroad) to tell her that we’re engaged. Her first words were “What do you mean ‘engaged’?” I was like, “You know… bethothed. Promised to wed. Engaged!”
I had been SO excited to tell her, and that weird cold reaction made me feel so awful afterwards. 🙁
Post # 104
I got the “finally! about time!” comment from a family friend who married young to a guy who cheated on her and was abusive towards her and her kids and she is now divorced, a single mom with two kids who will date anyone who asks and introduces everyone she dates to the kids.
I’d usually refrain from generalizing, but should she really be dispensing opinions on marriage and relationships given her situation? We were dating for a whopping 2 years before he proposed..how awful “eyeroll”
Post # 105
rittenhousenewbee: I feel like I’ll get that type of response from a friend of mine too. I’ve been dating my SO for 5 years now and we are both very happy (I’m ready to get married…he’s lining up all his ducks so I’m waiting patiently). My friend has 5 kids with three different men and was married to her first 2 kids dad but then divorced and went on to have 3 more babies with two different guys and has no plans of marrying…just likes to have a good time that tends to land her with more babies.
She asks me all the time why things are taking so long and when the heck are we going to move forward in our relationship…I just sit there and smile. I love her way too much to say anything…but who is she to give me advice??